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2023.06.06 03:55 MrMochaRocka How to improve the Duke Vanthampur fight?
So my 7 PC's are under the Villa in chapter 1 and they have breezed ehat I would consider the boss fight here. Cleverly they diverted majority of the cultists up above to deal with a Treant that they luckily spawned with the bag of beans in the villa yard, leaving only the 4 cultists with Odious and the Duke remaining.
We have ended the session after the first round of combat in which they tore the Duke and her cultists to shreds (literally...).
The Druid got first turn and set up Spike Growth. The wizard used Thunderwave to push the cultists through and essentially 1 shot them with the combo. The Paladin used Thunderous Smite to knock the Duke back 10ft dealing 35 damage in one shot. Not to mention the other attacks of the round. In the end the Duke was left with 8 hit points. Odious still remains at 103 hp. Also worth noting that he failed to summon a second Devil.
Meanwhile the party of 7 have only taken damage on 2 characters, the Paladin (12/28) and the Fighter 16/28) and are pretty full on abilities and spell slots.
They saw this a the BBEG thus far, so I'm feeling that the group will find this encounter very anticlimactic. How can I spice up the remaining combat? I was thinking of having the Duke "Devil" out, maybe possessed or channel Hellish power? Worth noting the Treant probably mops the floor with the guards and cultists so I could use that, but it feels like a cop out to have that ve the challenge and not the main villain of this arc.
I'm not too good at balancing the encounters for my party size just yet as I'm still fairly fresh as a DM, so any advice to second wind this scenario and really push the group hard would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: my group have almost smashed Duke Vanthampur in the first round of combat and only have Odious remaining, while not using many abilities or spell slots. How do I make the rest of this fight harder next session?
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We have ended the session after the first round of combat in which they tore the Duke and her cultists to shreds (literally...).
The Druid got first turn and set up Spike Growth. The wizard used Thunderwave to push the cultists through and essentially 1 shot them with the combo. The Paladin used Thunderous Smite to knock the Duke back 10ft dealing 35 damage in one shot. Not to mention the other attacks of the round. In the end the Duke was left with 8 hit points. Odious still remains at 103 hp. Also worth noting that he failed to summon a second Devil.
Meanwhile the party of 7 have only taken damage on 2 characters, the Paladin (12/28) and the Fighter 16/28) and are pretty full on abilities and spell slots.
They saw this a the BBEG thus far, so I'm feeling that the group will find this encounter very anticlimactic. How can I spice up the remaining combat? I was thinking of having the Duke "Devil" out, maybe possessed or channel Hellish power? Worth noting the Treant probably mops the floor with the guards and cultists so I could use that, but it feels like a cop out to have that ve the challenge and not the main villain of this arc.
I'm not too good at balancing the encounters for my party size just yet as I'm still fairly fresh as a DM, so any advice to second wind this scenario and really push the group hard would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: my group have almost smashed Duke Vanthampur in the first round of combat and only have Odious remaining, while not using many abilities or spell slots. How do I make the rest of this fight harder next session?
2023.06.06 03:53 glo-del My (F21) boyfriend (M21) just told me he's "here for the ride" when I asked what he wanted from our relationship.
Recently, my bf and I celebrated 2 years together. In the past few months, we've felt a bit disconnected with one another sexually due to a noticeable decrease in his libido that seems to be impacted by a number of factors (stress, antidepressants, depression, my weight gain, his weight gain). He felt prompted to bring this up which led to a relationship checkpoint, to discuss where we stood and any concerns or thoughts we may have.
Aside from the question of sexual compatibility, he used it as an opportunity to raise the concern that he felt as though being in a relationship was distracting him from personal development. He mentioned gaining weight and the lost habit of going to the gym often in addition to his desire to find a better job and figure out what he wanted to do career-wise (whether that be in school, or taking a break). Initially, he proposed taking a break to work on himself, but after talking, realized that usually breaks are a soft landing to a break up which he did not want to do. We discussed solutions for how he could improve and reach his goals while staying in the relationship.
I still felt a bit unsettled, so I asked what it was that he wanted from this relationship. Prior to this conversation, I was under the impression that we shared intentions of continuing this as a long-term relationship that would ideally lead to marriage (which we'd also discussed). We recently moved in together a couple months ago right before our 2 year anniversary, and even discussed future plans of moving to another state together. We'd previously expressed a shared desire to get married at some point but agreed that it would not be until years down the line once we'd settled into our respective careers and were financially stable and prepared to cover the expenses associated with marriage. After asking what he wanted from this relationship to ensure we were on the same page, this is what he told me: "I guess I'm just here for the ride. I enjoy spending fun times with you, but I'm not ruling out a long-term relationship either." He continued on to say that he wanted to cherish the times we have together and spend time with one another. He said specifically that the reason he was in this relationship was for "companionship" after expressing his fear of making a hasty decision to marry someone and be wrong about it in the future.
I shared with him that I want stability in my relationship. I want it to feel blissfully predictable without having to question how my partner feels about me and our relationship regularly. I want my relationship to ground me in times when other areas of my life might get chaotic, which in my head sounds similar to the idea of companionship he mentioned. The only difference is, I've always considered this relationship long-term or serious with the inevitable end goal of getting married should things continue to go well, but he mentioned he doesn't think very far into the future (specifically with marriage) given his current financial situation and circumstances.
I honestly don't know what to think. On the one hand, it sounds like we want some of the same things in regard to companionship and partnership with one another. But then again, it seems like I've perceived our relationship to be much more serious than he has. We get along really well and find enjoyment in the everyday mundane and are both happy and content with the state of our relationship overall. We work well together and really do operate as partners when it comes to making decisions, showing up for the other person, and just tackling life together while supporting one another. We laugh often and always have a good time.
All of the above is what I'd want in a relationship, and what I already have with him. I don't find the need to break up and search for someone else, because I already felt fulfilled in this relationship. But, I'm nervous about the idea of being in a relationship with a partner who's "here for the ride" even if they've expressed an openness to being long-term. I didn't even envision getting married for at least 5+ years from now anyways which is what dissuades me from considering ending things. I'd really love it if anyone had some insight to provide. How should I navigate the relationship from this point? What questions should I ask myself when considering how I want to proceed? This is my first real relationship so I'm pretty lost on this one.
TL;DR: My (F21) boyfriend (M21) just told me he's "here for the ride" when I asked what he wanted from our relationship when I previously thought we both viewed our relationship as serious. He's not against marriage and has expressed an openness to being long-term, but stated he's looking for "companionship". Very confused, and don't know what to think. How should I navigate?
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Aside from the question of sexual compatibility, he used it as an opportunity to raise the concern that he felt as though being in a relationship was distracting him from personal development. He mentioned gaining weight and the lost habit of going to the gym often in addition to his desire to find a better job and figure out what he wanted to do career-wise (whether that be in school, or taking a break). Initially, he proposed taking a break to work on himself, but after talking, realized that usually breaks are a soft landing to a break up which he did not want to do. We discussed solutions for how he could improve and reach his goals while staying in the relationship.
I still felt a bit unsettled, so I asked what it was that he wanted from this relationship. Prior to this conversation, I was under the impression that we shared intentions of continuing this as a long-term relationship that would ideally lead to marriage (which we'd also discussed). We recently moved in together a couple months ago right before our 2 year anniversary, and even discussed future plans of moving to another state together. We'd previously expressed a shared desire to get married at some point but agreed that it would not be until years down the line once we'd settled into our respective careers and were financially stable and prepared to cover the expenses associated with marriage. After asking what he wanted from this relationship to ensure we were on the same page, this is what he told me: "I guess I'm just here for the ride. I enjoy spending fun times with you, but I'm not ruling out a long-term relationship either." He continued on to say that he wanted to cherish the times we have together and spend time with one another. He said specifically that the reason he was in this relationship was for "companionship" after expressing his fear of making a hasty decision to marry someone and be wrong about it in the future.
I shared with him that I want stability in my relationship. I want it to feel blissfully predictable without having to question how my partner feels about me and our relationship regularly. I want my relationship to ground me in times when other areas of my life might get chaotic, which in my head sounds similar to the idea of companionship he mentioned. The only difference is, I've always considered this relationship long-term or serious with the inevitable end goal of getting married should things continue to go well, but he mentioned he doesn't think very far into the future (specifically with marriage) given his current financial situation and circumstances.
I honestly don't know what to think. On the one hand, it sounds like we want some of the same things in regard to companionship and partnership with one another. But then again, it seems like I've perceived our relationship to be much more serious than he has. We get along really well and find enjoyment in the everyday mundane and are both happy and content with the state of our relationship overall. We work well together and really do operate as partners when it comes to making decisions, showing up for the other person, and just tackling life together while supporting one another. We laugh often and always have a good time.
All of the above is what I'd want in a relationship, and what I already have with him. I don't find the need to break up and search for someone else, because I already felt fulfilled in this relationship. But, I'm nervous about the idea of being in a relationship with a partner who's "here for the ride" even if they've expressed an openness to being long-term. I didn't even envision getting married for at least 5+ years from now anyways which is what dissuades me from considering ending things. I'd really love it if anyone had some insight to provide. How should I navigate the relationship from this point? What questions should I ask myself when considering how I want to proceed? This is my first real relationship so I'm pretty lost on this one.
TL;DR: My (F21) boyfriend (M21) just told me he's "here for the ride" when I asked what he wanted from our relationship when I previously thought we both viewed our relationship as serious. He's not against marriage and has expressed an openness to being long-term, but stated he's looking for "companionship". Very confused, and don't know what to think. How should I navigate?
2023.06.06 03:53 BigSilver5541 My (24F) boyfriend (24M) jerked off to someone I told him not to.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We are LDR, but we are each other's firsts when we met for the first time. I thought everything was perfect and I could trust this man with my life. The chemistry was incredible. We shared a perfect 3 weeks together.
Eventually, I had to go back home, but we grew closer and more determined to close the distance. However, about two weeks after our first meeting, I noticed that he's been looking at this tiktok girl who creates gym thirst traps. I asked him to stop viewing content like that because it makes me uncomfortable, especially since she looks nothing like me and is very obviously hotter. He says he's just watching her because she has good fitness advice, but agrees to what I say.
Fast forward 2 months later, and I see that's he was viewing a subreddit specifically of people jerking off to her content. He admits to masturbating to her, and I'm disgusted. I feel so betrayed. He knew how I felt about this girl and decided that a quick nut was worth more than how I feel. On top of proving that he lied about "only watching her for fitness advice."
It's been 4 months since this happened, and although we're both trying to move forward, I can't help but still have moments where I doubt him, and even feel disgusted, or indifferent towards him. It hurts that the man I gave everything to could do this to me.
What should I do? Is this even salvageable? Is the trust just never going to be repaired?
tl;dr boyfriend jerked off to a tiktok girl I specifically told him to stop viewing and now I can't trust him
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Eventually, I had to go back home, but we grew closer and more determined to close the distance. However, about two weeks after our first meeting, I noticed that he's been looking at this tiktok girl who creates gym thirst traps. I asked him to stop viewing content like that because it makes me uncomfortable, especially since she looks nothing like me and is very obviously hotter. He says he's just watching her because she has good fitness advice, but agrees to what I say.
Fast forward 2 months later, and I see that's he was viewing a subreddit specifically of people jerking off to her content. He admits to masturbating to her, and I'm disgusted. I feel so betrayed. He knew how I felt about this girl and decided that a quick nut was worth more than how I feel. On top of proving that he lied about "only watching her for fitness advice."
It's been 4 months since this happened, and although we're both trying to move forward, I can't help but still have moments where I doubt him, and even feel disgusted, or indifferent towards him. It hurts that the man I gave everything to could do this to me.
What should I do? Is this even salvageable? Is the trust just never going to be repaired?
tl;dr boyfriend jerked off to a tiktok girl I specifically told him to stop viewing and now I can't trust him
2023.06.06 03:51 glo-del My (F21) boyfriend (M21) just told me he's "here for the ride" when I asked what he wanted from our relationship. How should I navigate the rest of this relationship from this point forward?
Recently, my bf and I celebrated 2 years together. In the past few months, we've felt a bit disconnected with one another sexually due to a noticeable decrease in his libido that seems to be impacted by a number of factors (stress, antidepressants, depression, my weight gain, his weight gain). He felt prompted to bring this up which led to a relationship checkpoint, to discuss where we stood and any concerns or thoughts we may have.
Aside from the question of sexual compatibility, he used it as an opportunity to raise the concern that he felt as though being in a relationship was distracting him from personal development. He mentioned gaining weight and the lost habit of going to the gym often in addition to his desire to find a better job and figure out what he wanted to do career-wise (whether that be in school, or taking a break). Initially, he proposed taking a break to work on himself, but after talking, realized that usually breaks are a soft landing to a break up which he did not want to do. We discussed solutions for how he could improve and reach his goals while staying in the relationship.
I still felt a bit unsettled, so I asked what it was that he wanted from this relationship. Prior to this conversation, I was under the impression that we shared intentions of continuing this as a long-term relationship that would ideally lead to marriage (which we'd also discussed). We recently moved in together a couple months ago right before our 2 year anniversary, and even discussed future plans of moving to another state together. We'd previously expressed a shared desire to get married at some point but agreed that it would not be until years down the line once we'd settled into our respective careers and were financially stable and prepared to cover the expenses associated with marriage. After asking what he wanted from this relationship to ensure we were on the same page, this is what he told me: "I guess I'm just here for the ride. I enjoy spending fun times with you, but I'm not ruling out a long-term relationship either." He continued on to say that he wanted to cherish the times we have together and spend time with one another. He said specifically that the reason he was in this relationship was for "companionship" after expressing his fear of making a hasty decision to marry someone and be wrong about it in the future.
I shared with him that I want stability in my relationship. I want it to feel blissfully predictable without having to question how my partner feels about me and our relationship regularly. I want my relationship to ground me in times when other areas of my life might get chaotic, which in my head sounds similar to the idea of companionship he mentioned. The only difference is, I've always considered this relationship long-term or serious with the inevitable end goal of getting married should things continue to go well, but he mentioned he doesn't think very far into the future (specifically with marriage) given his current financial situation and circumstances.
I honestly don't know what to think. On the one hand, it sounds like we want some of the same things in regard to companionship and partnership with one another. But then again, it seems like I've perceived our relationship to be much more serious than he has. We get along really well and find enjoyment in the everyday mundane and are both happy and content with the state of our relationship overall. We work well together and really do operate as partners when it comes to making decisions, showing up for the other person, and just tackling life together while supporting one another. We laugh often and always have a good time.
All of the above is what I'd want in a relationship, and what I already have with him. I don't find the need to break up and search for someone else, because I already felt fulfilled in this relationship. But, I'm nervous about the idea of being in a relationship with a partner who's "here for the ride" even if they've expressed an openness to being long-term. I didn't even envision getting married for at least 5+ years from now anyways which is what dissuades me from considering ending things. I'd really love it if anyone had some insight to provide. How should I navigate the relationship from this point? What questions should I ask myself when considering how I want to proceed? This is my first real relationship so I'm pretty lost on this one.
TL;DR: My (F21) boyfriend (M21) just told me he's "here for the ride" when I asked what he wanted from our relationship when I previously thought we both viewed our relationship as serious. He's not against marriage and has expressed an openness to being long-term, but stated he's looking for "companionship". Very confused, and don't know what to think. How should I navigate?
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Aside from the question of sexual compatibility, he used it as an opportunity to raise the concern that he felt as though being in a relationship was distracting him from personal development. He mentioned gaining weight and the lost habit of going to the gym often in addition to his desire to find a better job and figure out what he wanted to do career-wise (whether that be in school, or taking a break). Initially, he proposed taking a break to work on himself, but after talking, realized that usually breaks are a soft landing to a break up which he did not want to do. We discussed solutions for how he could improve and reach his goals while staying in the relationship.
I still felt a bit unsettled, so I asked what it was that he wanted from this relationship. Prior to this conversation, I was under the impression that we shared intentions of continuing this as a long-term relationship that would ideally lead to marriage (which we'd also discussed). We recently moved in together a couple months ago right before our 2 year anniversary, and even discussed future plans of moving to another state together. We'd previously expressed a shared desire to get married at some point but agreed that it would not be until years down the line once we'd settled into our respective careers and were financially stable and prepared to cover the expenses associated with marriage. After asking what he wanted from this relationship to ensure we were on the same page, this is what he told me: "I guess I'm just here for the ride. I enjoy spending fun times with you, but I'm not ruling out a long-term relationship either." He continued on to say that he wanted to cherish the times we have together and spend time with one another. He said specifically that the reason he was in this relationship was for "companionship" after expressing his fear of making a hasty decision to marry someone and be wrong about it in the future.
I shared with him that I want stability in my relationship. I want it to feel blissfully predictable without having to question how my partner feels about me and our relationship regularly. I want my relationship to ground me in times when other areas of my life might get chaotic, which in my head sounds similar to the idea of companionship he mentioned. The only difference is, I've always considered this relationship long-term or serious with the inevitable end goal of getting married should things continue to go well, but he mentioned he doesn't think very far into the future (specifically with marriage) given his current financial situation and circumstances.
I honestly don't know what to think. On the one hand, it sounds like we want some of the same things in regard to companionship and partnership with one another. But then again, it seems like I've perceived our relationship to be much more serious than he has. We get along really well and find enjoyment in the everyday mundane and are both happy and content with the state of our relationship overall. We work well together and really do operate as partners when it comes to making decisions, showing up for the other person, and just tackling life together while supporting one another. We laugh often and always have a good time.
All of the above is what I'd want in a relationship, and what I already have with him. I don't find the need to break up and search for someone else, because I already felt fulfilled in this relationship. But, I'm nervous about the idea of being in a relationship with a partner who's "here for the ride" even if they've expressed an openness to being long-term. I didn't even envision getting married for at least 5+ years from now anyways which is what dissuades me from considering ending things. I'd really love it if anyone had some insight to provide. How should I navigate the relationship from this point? What questions should I ask myself when considering how I want to proceed? This is my first real relationship so I'm pretty lost on this one.
TL;DR: My (F21) boyfriend (M21) just told me he's "here for the ride" when I asked what he wanted from our relationship when I previously thought we both viewed our relationship as serious. He's not against marriage and has expressed an openness to being long-term, but stated he's looking for "companionship". Very confused, and don't know what to think. How should I navigate?
2023.06.06 03:49 KitKatGif Cthulhu Finger Puppet Rescue! (Can this be washed?)
 | Hi all, apologies if this is the wrong place for this post. Just found this lil guy outside in the rain/dirt in front of my apartment and am curious if it’s safe to give him a bath (aka a good wash possibly with soap)? submitted by KitKatGif to puppets [link] [comments] According to his tag he’s from The Unemployed Philosophers Guild and has a magnet in his head, hence why I’m asking if it’s safe to wash 😅 Any help is greatly appreciated! |
2023.06.06 03:48 LaLunaMama75 Post PMS and perimenopause is going to be the death of me😩
I’m 48, and most likely in perimenopause. The dr thought I was after my last child was born because my periods got much, much heavier immediately after her birth (all pms symptoms did) but that was 13 years ago so I doubt I’ve been in perimenopause that long. But around the same time I noticed that I was getting really bad PMS symptoms at the end of my period. I’ve never really had much “pms” to speak of. Nothing that affected my day to day anyway. But I’ve noticed more and more how much I’m being affected by this. It feels like it’s totally opposite of the way it should be. I have a few really, really good days where I’m in a great mood, have energy, I’m productive. Then bam, my period starts and it’s downhill from there. Around the last day of bleeding and for several days after I’m a total mess. Anger to the point of rage. I can’t think. I feel like I’m going to explode. That’s not me, it’s not my norm.
Once a month was bad enough but I guess now I’m REALLY in perimenopause because I’ve had three periods in a row with only about two weeks in between them. Today is one of the bad days. I honestly feel like I could take off walking and never come back. I won’t do that, but Ive considered it lol
Has anyone found anything that helps with this? I bought a DIM supplement and the day after I took it it was pure RAGE, and on a day it shouldn’t have been. I don’t know if it was just a bad day anyway or if I don’t react to it like other people.
My doctors suggestions have been antidepressants, which I’ve had horrible experience with in the past which I won’t go into here but let’s just say my body and brain did not like it. And lastly taking birth control. I’ve taken birth control in the past, but long ago. I tried it again after my last child was born but it made me feel so bleh. Yes, the post PMS was better but there wasn’t any “good” days, either. He doesn’t really have any other suggestions…
I’d love to hear anyone else’s experience with this and if you found anything that helped. I feel like I’m missing out on so much LIFE, you know? There has to be something that would help.
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Once a month was bad enough but I guess now I’m REALLY in perimenopause because I’ve had three periods in a row with only about two weeks in between them. Today is one of the bad days. I honestly feel like I could take off walking and never come back. I won’t do that, but Ive considered it lol
Has anyone found anything that helps with this? I bought a DIM supplement and the day after I took it it was pure RAGE, and on a day it shouldn’t have been. I don’t know if it was just a bad day anyway or if I don’t react to it like other people.
My doctors suggestions have been antidepressants, which I’ve had horrible experience with in the past which I won’t go into here but let’s just say my body and brain did not like it. And lastly taking birth control. I’ve taken birth control in the past, but long ago. I tried it again after my last child was born but it made me feel so bleh. Yes, the post PMS was better but there wasn’t any “good” days, either. He doesn’t really have any other suggestions…
I’d love to hear anyone else’s experience with this and if you found anything that helped. I feel like I’m missing out on so much LIFE, you know? There has to be something that would help.
2023.06.06 03:47 needle-roulette i feel sorry for everyone involved in this series.
i cant say the acting is bad, because even soap operas are written better, so you can only work with the material you are given. i cant say the stories are written badly, since its painfully obvious that no writer have any scientific knowledge at all. ( even a 5 year old should know that in a sealed space ship there is no where for spilled water to "disappear" to.)there is nothing new in the stories, nothing that has not been done before ( and much better). they could have stolen scenes word for word from older shows and mashed it together and done better. When the actors that are killed off, they must be very happy to get out before it goes all bad, or it gets renewed for a second season and they miss real opportunities.
the show might make a good drinking game. or something to encourage legal suicide. i know i would rather be dead then watch a second season, or at least too drunk or high know what i was doing.
i hope the actors get a chance to show what they are capable of, since this will hang around their necks for years to come.
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the show might make a good drinking game. or something to encourage legal suicide. i know i would rather be dead then watch a second season, or at least too drunk or high know what i was doing.
i hope the actors get a chance to show what they are capable of, since this will hang around their necks for years to come.
2023.06.06 03:45 Visual_Society3594 I (F21) am having an existential crisis over my best friend (f19) and an old best friend (f21) that has randomly appeared back in my life. What should i do?
Hiya, this is my first post ever and i’m very anxious about it. To start off, I’m going to be giving fake names because I desperately want this to stay as anonymous as possible. My best friend, we’ll call her Lily (F19) and I have been friends since basically diapers. Our grandparents and aunts both grew up together as well and I guess we just carried on the tradition. In high-school, Lily and i met another girl (the one who appeared back in my life recently) and we’ll name her Jackie (F21) We all sort of formed a trio friendship and everything was really good for about a year, but you know what they say about trios. I had found out at the time that Lily would lie to me and give me excuses like she had to see a teacher for extra help, but i would later find out she was hanging out with Jackie. This caused a huge insecurity problem for me and i eventually distanced myself from them both because i was extremely hurt. When I did eventually confront them about it i was told that i was selfish and i don’t always have to be with them (which i understand we didn’t, it was the lying that made me upset.)
Anyways this is necessary to include because it was the beginning of the downfall of Jackie and I’s relationship. Eventually, Jackie found herself in a very very bad relationship, i won’t disclose the details as it is not my story to tell. She ended up completely cutting off every person in her life but this boy and just disappeared. Lily and I were obviously betrayed, we both felt as if ghosting your supposed best friends for a boy was insane. During this time we found out from each other a ton of stuff that Jackie would say to us about each other, and some of those things really cut deep and we both decided to keep her cut off. Fast forward to a year later (now), Jackie texted me and asked me if we could call. It honestly took a lot for me to not cuss her out immediately but the nostalgia in me couldn’t help itself. We called and she explained the shit that happened between her and her ex partner and I couldn’t help but almost be brought to tears. As for the gossiping that was happening before we cut off the friendship, i confronted and she apologized and I didn’t think much of it anymore.
I am still very cautious of her and don’t consider her a close friend, we truly don’t even talk much. We hung out once after the call and haven’t since. When i told Lily about all of this she was MAD. Which i completely understand, Jackie did say some things that were honestly nasty and hurtful. I tried explaining that i am not seeking out a friendship, rather i am forgiving and instead of keeping a chip on my shoulder forever i just want to be free of any weight that i had on my shoulders from the hatred and anger i was feeling. Understandably, i no longer spoke to Lily about Jackie whatsoever and she doesn’t know that we talk maybe once a week to see how each other are doing but nothing more than that. Lately i’ve noticed an intense change in Lily and I’s relationship. She no longer texts me first or answers me, we are extremely distanced and it constantly feels like she wants to cuss me out but is keeping it inside. I feel like the choice i made to let Jackie back into my life was a huge betrayal and i’m starting to think i made a mistake.
I’m really stuck and i don’t know if i should cut Jackie off again? Or try having another conversation with Lily? I’m just really lost and need some advice. The stress from this whole situation makes me want to throw up.
TL;DR : Old best friend came back into my life after hurting me and my current best friend. Current best friend is mad at me, do i cut old one off again?
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Anyways this is necessary to include because it was the beginning of the downfall of Jackie and I’s relationship. Eventually, Jackie found herself in a very very bad relationship, i won’t disclose the details as it is not my story to tell. She ended up completely cutting off every person in her life but this boy and just disappeared. Lily and I were obviously betrayed, we both felt as if ghosting your supposed best friends for a boy was insane. During this time we found out from each other a ton of stuff that Jackie would say to us about each other, and some of those things really cut deep and we both decided to keep her cut off. Fast forward to a year later (now), Jackie texted me and asked me if we could call. It honestly took a lot for me to not cuss her out immediately but the nostalgia in me couldn’t help itself. We called and she explained the shit that happened between her and her ex partner and I couldn’t help but almost be brought to tears. As for the gossiping that was happening before we cut off the friendship, i confronted and she apologized and I didn’t think much of it anymore.
I am still very cautious of her and don’t consider her a close friend, we truly don’t even talk much. We hung out once after the call and haven’t since. When i told Lily about all of this she was MAD. Which i completely understand, Jackie did say some things that were honestly nasty and hurtful. I tried explaining that i am not seeking out a friendship, rather i am forgiving and instead of keeping a chip on my shoulder forever i just want to be free of any weight that i had on my shoulders from the hatred and anger i was feeling. Understandably, i no longer spoke to Lily about Jackie whatsoever and she doesn’t know that we talk maybe once a week to see how each other are doing but nothing more than that. Lately i’ve noticed an intense change in Lily and I’s relationship. She no longer texts me first or answers me, we are extremely distanced and it constantly feels like she wants to cuss me out but is keeping it inside. I feel like the choice i made to let Jackie back into my life was a huge betrayal and i’m starting to think i made a mistake.
I’m really stuck and i don’t know if i should cut Jackie off again? Or try having another conversation with Lily? I’m just really lost and need some advice. The stress from this whole situation makes me want to throw up.
TL;DR : Old best friend came back into my life after hurting me and my current best friend. Current best friend is mad at me, do i cut old one off again?
2023.06.06 03:44 DefiantOrange905 Would these be consider red flags or am I over thinking it?
My Fiancé and I have been together for 9 years. We moved in together about a year ago and slowly realizing these things that I can’t tell if it’s red flags..
Example: We both have stable and decent paying jobs and sometimes I jokingly mention being a realtor or something little bit more pay on the side and ask if she would support that and she would reply “do whatever you want, but i won’t support you financially” I would tell her I wouldn’t need the financial support but if I were need it would you? She said no. I told her that I do these gigs to support us financially and not just myself and she would say you didn’t say that..
Oftentimes I feel like she’s kind of self centered because when I think of buying things for us or planning us I always have us in mind, where as she’s more of just as long as she got herself then she’s good.. Anything I talk in future tense I include us, whereas she doesn’t do the same. Not sure if thats how she grew up from a divorced family but I’d like to hear any experiences from similar situations? Thanks
TL;DR: Noticing more red flags(?) after moving in with my Fiancé after a year. Looking for advice to see if anyone been in similar situations and what others feel like this could be
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Example: We both have stable and decent paying jobs and sometimes I jokingly mention being a realtor or something little bit more pay on the side and ask if she would support that and she would reply “do whatever you want, but i won’t support you financially” I would tell her I wouldn’t need the financial support but if I were need it would you? She said no. I told her that I do these gigs to support us financially and not just myself and she would say you didn’t say that..
Oftentimes I feel like she’s kind of self centered because when I think of buying things for us or planning us I always have us in mind, where as she’s more of just as long as she got herself then she’s good.. Anything I talk in future tense I include us, whereas she doesn’t do the same. Not sure if thats how she grew up from a divorced family but I’d like to hear any experiences from similar situations? Thanks
TL;DR: Noticing more red flags(?) after moving in with my Fiancé after a year. Looking for advice to see if anyone been in similar situations and what others feel like this could be
2023.06.06 03:41 Stan_SH17 When she really loves you, but problems of life are the monster...
Hello everyone.I present my case to you, I would like to know if I have managed it well in the end, what possibilities do you think I have and in general any advice I would greatly appreciate.My girlfriend ended a 4-year relationship with me a month ago. We both have 22 years. The apparent reason was that we drifted apart for a couple of weeks because of college, we had a fight, and then she kissed one of her friends. That destroyed her, to this day she feels like garbage and she can't bear the guilt of what she did. She doesn't understand why it happened, she just started to like that boy and she suppressed her feelings until everything exploded because of the bad moment she had with me. In general we both blame much more the difficult circumstances of our lives, psychological, university, family and economic problems. She neglected everything a lot to dedicate herself completely to her studies.
The day after the kiss he told me everything, he apologized and cried a lot. But at the same time she communicated her desire to end the relationship. At that time I accepted without many buts, but it was not what I wanted. Throughout the latter we both reflect on the true causes of the breakup. These could be: monotony, lack of emotional communication, stagnation in our activities and loss of the individual due to the desire to please the couple. Because of that, she lost a lot of interest in me. Because I wasn't going through a good time in my life, and I really think she realized that things would be boring with me. We did not have many arguments in our relationship, and we have always enjoyed each other's company very much.
Generally speaking, we were never in a toxic relationship. But if a somewhat careless and took everything for granted.Because of that, I started working on my motivation to get her back. I managed to change my life, and my impatience made me want to get back to her quickly. We saw each other three times during that month, the point was the same. Determine if she wanted to come back, and even though I never begged, I did push her a little. I behaved too complacent and it cost me a lot of work to understand the main reason for her refusal. She wanted time to work on her problems, to clear her feelings and forget all the pain that the breakup caused her. Just today, after a request from her for distancing, we reached an agreement. You see, she hasn't stopped loving me. And it's not just assumptions or lies on her part, she continually shows it when we're together. She kisses me, she hugs me, she cares about me. She is sure that she loves me, likes me and without a doubt desires me. But she understands that we are emotionally damaged and she doesn't want to promise that we can be together again so she doesn't torture me with waiting. She doesn't want to commit to wanting to be with me after the estrangement. Our agreement was as follows: there will be no contact of any kind for 2 months. The goal is to heal and work on our goals, desires and problems. After that we will see each other not to determine if we want to be together, but to determine if we want to start over again. To flirt again and all that, to perhaps start a new relationship. The rules are simple, exclusivity (to actually respect the duel) and communication only in an emergency. Naturally during that time I will continue as before, exercise, study, socializing and many many hobbies.
What opinion do you have of the situation? Please make assumptions under the idea that she really broke up with me because we needed to. Not because she doesn't love me or because she wants to be with someone else. She's not a bad person, she just has a lot of problems. Although she does make me feel bad that she has been so determined to end the relationship. It's as if despite her fears, she has the conviction that it's the right thing to do. But I suppose that could change, I haven't given her much space this month and she hasn't had time to think about the situation in peace, again because of the university. She's the type of person who could sleep 3 hours a day when the going gets tough, just because she's obsessed with getting a good grade.Do I have any chance of getting back with her? I really want to heal, leave my pain behind and accept what happened. When we meet again I would like to be ready to fall in love with her again and for everything to work again, but this time better. Any advice? Is our two-month plan a good idea?
**TL;DR; :My girlfriend ended a relationship with me for 4 and a half years. It seems that she deelpy loves me, likes me and wants me very much. But she has many personal problems, our relationship has deteriorated and this situation hurts both of us. We decided to isolate ourselves from each other for two months. It will work? She doesn't know if we'll be back, I want to. What should I do?**
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The day after the kiss he told me everything, he apologized and cried a lot. But at the same time she communicated her desire to end the relationship. At that time I accepted without many buts, but it was not what I wanted. Throughout the latter we both reflect on the true causes of the breakup. These could be: monotony, lack of emotional communication, stagnation in our activities and loss of the individual due to the desire to please the couple. Because of that, she lost a lot of interest in me. Because I wasn't going through a good time in my life, and I really think she realized that things would be boring with me. We did not have many arguments in our relationship, and we have always enjoyed each other's company very much.
Generally speaking, we were never in a toxic relationship. But if a somewhat careless and took everything for granted.Because of that, I started working on my motivation to get her back. I managed to change my life, and my impatience made me want to get back to her quickly. We saw each other three times during that month, the point was the same. Determine if she wanted to come back, and even though I never begged, I did push her a little. I behaved too complacent and it cost me a lot of work to understand the main reason for her refusal. She wanted time to work on her problems, to clear her feelings and forget all the pain that the breakup caused her. Just today, after a request from her for distancing, we reached an agreement. You see, she hasn't stopped loving me. And it's not just assumptions or lies on her part, she continually shows it when we're together. She kisses me, she hugs me, she cares about me. She is sure that she loves me, likes me and without a doubt desires me. But she understands that we are emotionally damaged and she doesn't want to promise that we can be together again so she doesn't torture me with waiting. She doesn't want to commit to wanting to be with me after the estrangement. Our agreement was as follows: there will be no contact of any kind for 2 months. The goal is to heal and work on our goals, desires and problems. After that we will see each other not to determine if we want to be together, but to determine if we want to start over again. To flirt again and all that, to perhaps start a new relationship. The rules are simple, exclusivity (to actually respect the duel) and communication only in an emergency. Naturally during that time I will continue as before, exercise, study, socializing and many many hobbies.
What opinion do you have of the situation? Please make assumptions under the idea that she really broke up with me because we needed to. Not because she doesn't love me or because she wants to be with someone else. She's not a bad person, she just has a lot of problems. Although she does make me feel bad that she has been so determined to end the relationship. It's as if despite her fears, she has the conviction that it's the right thing to do. But I suppose that could change, I haven't given her much space this month and she hasn't had time to think about the situation in peace, again because of the university. She's the type of person who could sleep 3 hours a day when the going gets tough, just because she's obsessed with getting a good grade.Do I have any chance of getting back with her? I really want to heal, leave my pain behind and accept what happened. When we meet again I would like to be ready to fall in love with her again and for everything to work again, but this time better. Any advice? Is our two-month plan a good idea?
**TL;DR; :My girlfriend ended a relationship with me for 4 and a half years. It seems that she deelpy loves me, likes me and wants me very much. But she has many personal problems, our relationship has deteriorated and this situation hurts both of us. We decided to isolate ourselves from each other for two months. It will work? She doesn't know if we'll be back, I want to. What should I do?**
2023.06.06 03:41 lyridsreign Let's not be quick to dismiss criticism
I bought into Early Access after seeing some reviews and watching my favorite Overwatch streamer play through the first hour of the Early Access launch. I beat Act VI on Saturday night and got into WT3 on early Sunday afternoon. I've seen a lot of justified criticism about the game and some unjustified ones, I'd like to throw my hat into the ring from the perspective of someone who has a lot of experience with ARPGs but not a hardcore player like many others are.
The Good:
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The Good:
- The base 1-50 experience is incredibly content rich and while I have some gripes about the story, its presentation is leagues above the competition. Blizzard has always made banger cinematics but now they've extended that talent into much better presentation throughout without having to lean on cinematics as much
- Open world Diablo was something that initially had me worried about the gameplay loop but I was pleasantly surprised to be proven wrong. While nothing groundbreaking or the future of open world ARPG design, it will serve to offer hours of enjoyable gameplay on top of everything else in the base package.
- Legendary imprinting was a system I didn't know I wanted until I played D4. Build crafting not only becomes more accessible for your average ARPG player but it also helps in optimizing the perfect build for the dedicated.
- Nightmare Dungeons take the best aspects of WoWs Mythic+ and incorporate it into the already robust dungeon system Diablo games are known for. Legion and Helltide events are great at selling the idea of spontaneous grouping and strangers working together naturally. Same can also be said for the regular events too but I noticed this more during Legion/Helltides.
- Currencies, mounts, codex, and major renown rewards being account wide is a major boon to this games longevity with the casual community as the barriers to creating alts have lowered significantly.
- Tree of Whispers is a unique and fun way to not only assist in the early endgame gearing but also encourages players to explore zones they may have skipped out on during their leveling
- The first capstone dungeon is a mismatch of ideas that fail to help players transition into WT3. Outside of the final boss the entire dungeon is extremely similar to what you have already been doing but now more elites that barely hurt you exist.
- Builder skills feel incredibly weak to use and don't offer enough resource generation to justify their existence in some cases. Builder-Spender loops need to be engaging at every part not just the dumping phase.
- There are clear winners and losers in every tree. Some abilities are so downright awful that even someone who doesn't like looking up external information will be able to tell when their skill choices were bad. Other abilities feel mandatory for every build, even if it doesn't fit the theme. Necromancer especially took a heavy hit with their minions feeling less like an extension of you and more of a cumbersome to manage damage passive
- World bosses are incredibly rewarding but are also slogs to get through. Lack of variety in encounters coupled with said encounters feeling incredibly basic means there will be little incentive for players to keep returning to them each week unless other gearing methods are tapped out.
- Tile generation for dungeons, cellars, and other instanced areas are far too limited. By the time you have wrapped up the six Acts you will have seen 90% of everything the game can use when it generates a play area for you. While this is somewhat expected due to the nature of ARPGs it still is bound by strict limitations of few tiles to work with.
2023.06.06 03:38 reptilelover42 PSA: Please be careful about making medical claims about soap
Just a heads up, Etsy is really cracking down on medical claims about properties of soap and removing listings. Now making a disclaimer that it isn't a medical claim doesn't protect you, and even hinting at benefits will be a violation of their new terms. I think this is a good thing (I've seen countless listings where people claim their soap will cure acne, eczema, rosacea, dandruff, etc), but it's something to be really careful about since many new soapmakers aren't familiar with the laws surrounding this. You can only advertise your soap as soap, you can't say it will cure or treat any condition (then it would fall under the purview of the FDA). Just a friendly reminder to help everyone stay safe.
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2023.06.06 03:33 throwrapalmer Bf made a sexual joke in front of my family causing us to fight
I (20f) have been dating this guy(26m) for a few months but we have known each other longer and had a FWB situation a couple of years ago. Our relationship has been going very well and we are really into each other but it is early.
My family is conservative in some ways, they are very good people. I don't want to make it sound like they are super prudish, we all drink but I have never talked to any of them about sex at all ever. My mom and dad only cuss in rare instances so we all try not to cuss in front of them, things like that.
We had dinner with them and some of my extended family a few days ago. My bf was really nervous about this. I reassured him and told him they will love him and it would be fine. I was kind of nervous too, so we both started drinking when we got there. He ended up getting along with my brothers really well and they were having a great time so I was happy and since it was going well I wasn't concerned. He drank way too much with them.
While we were eating he made a sexual joke involving horseradish sauce and me. I wanted to fucking die. This was in front of 25+ members of my family. I was so mad and still kind of am. No one laughed and it was just weird. I doubt I would laugh at a joke about my daughter and cum. I mostly avoided everyone the rest of the time we were there and we left early. I don't even know if they knew that I have sex.
When we got to the car I asked him why on earth he thought that was an appropriate comment. I told him they aren't our friends and he humiliated me. At first he was apologetic and said his family isn't like mine and he should not have said it. I was quiet the rest of our ride. When we got back to his place I told him I just wanted to go to bed and we will talk about it tomorrow. He told me I was being a b**** and started blaming my family and I. I told him just because they are different than what he is used to it doesn't make them bad. He went hard on them. I told him he was a fucking idiot and we got into a really bad fight that was partially due to the alcohol. It was bad though, he threw a few of his glasses and slept in the other room.
I blame most of the fighting part on alcohol, but I am still upset about the joke. Now we are pretending that the fight didn't happen and things are just weird. He is now concerned he has damaged the relationship with my family and I feel like I am having to comfort him, which is annoying me. I am concerned that I may have been too dramatic and he didn't realize the family dynamics but I would never have done the same to him. to be clear, I would not really have cared if this was in front of anyone else, probably just slightly annoyed. Did I make a big deal out of nothing? This is the only fight we have ever had. My family has not brought it up to me thank god. I am just wondering what I should do about this and want advice on dealing with this in the healthiest way for our relationship
tl;dr- boyfriend made a really explicit sexual joke in front of my family and this caused us to fight and idk what to do next.
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My family is conservative in some ways, they are very good people. I don't want to make it sound like they are super prudish, we all drink but I have never talked to any of them about sex at all ever. My mom and dad only cuss in rare instances so we all try not to cuss in front of them, things like that.
We had dinner with them and some of my extended family a few days ago. My bf was really nervous about this. I reassured him and told him they will love him and it would be fine. I was kind of nervous too, so we both started drinking when we got there. He ended up getting along with my brothers really well and they were having a great time so I was happy and since it was going well I wasn't concerned. He drank way too much with them.
While we were eating he made a sexual joke involving horseradish sauce and me. I wanted to fucking die. This was in front of 25+ members of my family. I was so mad and still kind of am. No one laughed and it was just weird. I doubt I would laugh at a joke about my daughter and cum. I mostly avoided everyone the rest of the time we were there and we left early. I don't even know if they knew that I have sex.
When we got to the car I asked him why on earth he thought that was an appropriate comment. I told him they aren't our friends and he humiliated me. At first he was apologetic and said his family isn't like mine and he should not have said it. I was quiet the rest of our ride. When we got back to his place I told him I just wanted to go to bed and we will talk about it tomorrow. He told me I was being a b**** and started blaming my family and I. I told him just because they are different than what he is used to it doesn't make them bad. He went hard on them. I told him he was a fucking idiot and we got into a really bad fight that was partially due to the alcohol. It was bad though, he threw a few of his glasses and slept in the other room.
I blame most of the fighting part on alcohol, but I am still upset about the joke. Now we are pretending that the fight didn't happen and things are just weird. He is now concerned he has damaged the relationship with my family and I feel like I am having to comfort him, which is annoying me. I am concerned that I may have been too dramatic and he didn't realize the family dynamics but I would never have done the same to him. to be clear, I would not really have cared if this was in front of anyone else, probably just slightly annoyed. Did I make a big deal out of nothing? This is the only fight we have ever had. My family has not brought it up to me thank god. I am just wondering what I should do about this and want advice on dealing with this in the healthiest way for our relationship
tl;dr- boyfriend made a really explicit sexual joke in front of my family and this caused us to fight and idk what to do next.
2023.06.06 03:33 RN1379258 Should I (22F) break up or stay together with my boyfriend (23M)?
I would like to start this by saying I know this is long I'm sorry, it's a drawn out situation. I'm diagnosed with depression and general anxiety, I over think everything because lots of childhood trauma. I don't have access to therapy (financial reasons) but I take medication prescribed by a primary family doctor. I am mentally draining myself every day thinking about which would be the better decision and have weighed the pros and cons of both but still am at a crossroads and the anxiety is eating away at me. I have self sabotaging patterns towards things that are good for me thinking I don't deserve them, but I also when in bad situations tell myself "I deserve better" so I don't know if my decision would be based out of repeating trauma or breaking the pattern. I'm trying to make the best decision for myself and would like to hear others thoughts.
I (22F) met my boyfriend (23M) 2.5 years ago online who lived an hour away and it became a steady blossoming love that grew over the span of a couple months. When we got together we were still living at our parents houses, saw each other often and things were great. Even after we got out of the honey moon phase we were always communicating our expectations, feelings and thoughts, hearing each other out wholeheartedly, looking within ourselves to self improve, smoked some ganj, went on adventures/traveled, sex was good, had stable incomes, and it was a great partnership. Then something shifted a year in, it wasn't any particular thing that happened but it was a definite shift.
I remember around the time the shift happened, depression was getting to him and my cat had developed bladder stones and was blocked and needed urgent care. Kitty recovered well and is healthy, but the whole vet ordeal sent me into over $3,000 in debt and took so much of my savings. I confided in my partner emotionally, also saying I would need financial help because I needed to pay roughly $90 a week to pay off a loan from care credit of $2,200 in 6 months before I got hit with an insane APR. We had stable jobs but that was still a huge hit and we both already had credit card debt.
For some reason he decided it was a good idea a couple weeks after that happened to go down to part time at his job when he was working full time. His job paid around $15ish for full-time and $13ish for part time. He said it was because he disliked the job which was totally fine, but instead of looking for a different job he went down to working 15-20 hours a week. I understood him wanting to not work there because being stuck at a job you hate sucks, but I didn't understand why he didn't get a different job entirely, instead of going down to part time especially knowing I needed his financial help.
Eventually our financial situation got very tight because of both of our circumstances and he ended up rarely working at his job (like one 5 hour shift a week). He ended up racking two grand of credit card debt and my savings got drained down to a couple hundred while before it neared two grand. Throughout the next couple months we didn't do any more fun things and it would consist of him doing odd side jobs to get a couple $20's in cash for bare necessities. He attempted to get stable full time jobs but would quit a month in because he didn't like it (before securing a different job), would fail a pre-employment drug test (he messed up doing the fake pee), or got fired because of tardiness, or having a workplace accident and then failing the drug test that followed. I was really understanding through all this and did my best to be there for him, but I was so drained.
I'd kept my stable job the entire relationship and a couple months into the rough patch I eventually got a raise from $17 to $19.50 and was providing a lot of the necessities for our relationship while also trying to keep the relationship "fun" (picking up the tab to a restaurant, going to a movie, mini golfing, arcade, etc.). After about a year passed going through this rough patch I started to become resentful. I'd communicate with him how I felt alone in trying to fuel this relationship. He started emotionally clocking out, not doing romantic things anymore, not putting effort into finding jobs (it would be months in between job attempts), and he would hear me out and apologize for everything and then would say it's because of depression. I understood depression so heavily and I encouraged him to reach out for help. He was on his parents insurance and it provided free doctors visits and free therapy allowing him to switch his therapist for free at anytime if he didn't like them, but he was so reluctant to use those resources. Eventually he started trying medication but said it didn't work so he switched it to something else and then said that didn't work either, but he was pretty inconsistent with taking his medication. He'd schedule visits with his therapist and call last minute before the appointment saying he wouldn't be able to make it or just didn't show up in general with no warning.
It seemed like he just kept getting worse and didn't have any will to get better. When it came to our sex life I told him sex positions I liked and he would rarely do them, all while we would do the positions he liked almost every time. When it came to cuddling it was always me holding him with his head on my chest but never the other way around. When we would be grocery shopping and I would be buying all the groceries he wouldn't even push the shopping cart or pick up heavy things (not refusal, just never offered). I felt like he was benefitting from me while I was suffering. I brought up to him that I felt alone all the time and it was always met with a sincere apology but no changed behavior.
Eventually I gave him an ultimatum that I was going to leave if things didn't change. Then he would change for a couple weeks and then it would go right back to what it was. I would communicate with him again and again and it felt like I was nagging him to meet my needs. I felt like I must've done something wrong, at the very least enabled the behavior. I wanted to move out, go to the gym, eat right, get my life together and he didn't have near as much will to do those things as I did. I was so filled with resentment I started emotionally clocking out, and then that's when he started to change things.
He started doing all the things I've been asking him to do for over a year (some things have still not changed though) and he 's about to get a job he's dead set on keeping, he found a medication he thinks is working, and we have plans to do fun things this year, but I'm so weary. I'm having a hard time putting faith into his ability to offer stability. I'm also having a hard time building that trust back into him after all the empty promises he's made.
At the height of our "conflict" (we never yelled at each or name called) we were having a discussion on financial matters...again.. and when I expressed I was tired of buying food for the both of us he said "Well I just won't eat then" and when I told him I was tired of being the only one to pay for the fun dates to keep our relationship exciting he said "I never asked you to spend that money." Yet for an anniversary present I made a "date idea" jar and it was filled with little pieces of paper with cheap/free/at home/outside date ideas. I gifted it to him and only ONCE has he expressed interest in using the jar, and when he pulled a piece of paper out and read the date idea he said "I don't feel like doing that" and put the piece of paper back in the jar, then back on the shelf.
It feels like it's only changed because I've begged him and said I'd leave if things didn't change. But now that he's proven he was fully capable of doing all those things all along, and just watched me suffer while I held up both ends of our relationship, it makes me wonder what would happen if he spiraled into another depressive episode. Would this same thing happen again?
He's a kind man who's always there to lend a helping hand if asked, my family adores him, he's the kind of man that would NEVER cheat, he has good friends that respect and love me, he's caring to animals, he listens attentively when I have something to say, etc. but I wonder to myself... is that the bare minimum as well? Now that he's doing a majority of the things I asked, is it wrong to leave? I just still have so much resentment left and no idea how to get rid of it and I still find myself emotionally distant. Or is it valid to leave because it took so much begging and suffering to get here and I can't guarantee it won't happen again? TL;DR - Boyfriend was putting A+ effort into the relationship in the beginning, stopped putting in effort a year in and was putting in basically nothing, then after me communicating frustrations multiple times and finally an ultimatum, he straightened up but it still doesn't feel legit.
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I (22F) met my boyfriend (23M) 2.5 years ago online who lived an hour away and it became a steady blossoming love that grew over the span of a couple months. When we got together we were still living at our parents houses, saw each other often and things were great. Even after we got out of the honey moon phase we were always communicating our expectations, feelings and thoughts, hearing each other out wholeheartedly, looking within ourselves to self improve, smoked some ganj, went on adventures/traveled, sex was good, had stable incomes, and it was a great partnership. Then something shifted a year in, it wasn't any particular thing that happened but it was a definite shift.
I remember around the time the shift happened, depression was getting to him and my cat had developed bladder stones and was blocked and needed urgent care. Kitty recovered well and is healthy, but the whole vet ordeal sent me into over $3,000 in debt and took so much of my savings. I confided in my partner emotionally, also saying I would need financial help because I needed to pay roughly $90 a week to pay off a loan from care credit of $2,200 in 6 months before I got hit with an insane APR. We had stable jobs but that was still a huge hit and we both already had credit card debt.
For some reason he decided it was a good idea a couple weeks after that happened to go down to part time at his job when he was working full time. His job paid around $15ish for full-time and $13ish for part time. He said it was because he disliked the job which was totally fine, but instead of looking for a different job he went down to working 15-20 hours a week. I understood him wanting to not work there because being stuck at a job you hate sucks, but I didn't understand why he didn't get a different job entirely, instead of going down to part time especially knowing I needed his financial help.
Eventually our financial situation got very tight because of both of our circumstances and he ended up rarely working at his job (like one 5 hour shift a week). He ended up racking two grand of credit card debt and my savings got drained down to a couple hundred while before it neared two grand. Throughout the next couple months we didn't do any more fun things and it would consist of him doing odd side jobs to get a couple $20's in cash for bare necessities. He attempted to get stable full time jobs but would quit a month in because he didn't like it (before securing a different job), would fail a pre-employment drug test (he messed up doing the fake pee), or got fired because of tardiness, or having a workplace accident and then failing the drug test that followed. I was really understanding through all this and did my best to be there for him, but I was so drained.
I'd kept my stable job the entire relationship and a couple months into the rough patch I eventually got a raise from $17 to $19.50 and was providing a lot of the necessities for our relationship while also trying to keep the relationship "fun" (picking up the tab to a restaurant, going to a movie, mini golfing, arcade, etc.). After about a year passed going through this rough patch I started to become resentful. I'd communicate with him how I felt alone in trying to fuel this relationship. He started emotionally clocking out, not doing romantic things anymore, not putting effort into finding jobs (it would be months in between job attempts), and he would hear me out and apologize for everything and then would say it's because of depression. I understood depression so heavily and I encouraged him to reach out for help. He was on his parents insurance and it provided free doctors visits and free therapy allowing him to switch his therapist for free at anytime if he didn't like them, but he was so reluctant to use those resources. Eventually he started trying medication but said it didn't work so he switched it to something else and then said that didn't work either, but he was pretty inconsistent with taking his medication. He'd schedule visits with his therapist and call last minute before the appointment saying he wouldn't be able to make it or just didn't show up in general with no warning.
It seemed like he just kept getting worse and didn't have any will to get better. When it came to our sex life I told him sex positions I liked and he would rarely do them, all while we would do the positions he liked almost every time. When it came to cuddling it was always me holding him with his head on my chest but never the other way around. When we would be grocery shopping and I would be buying all the groceries he wouldn't even push the shopping cart or pick up heavy things (not refusal, just never offered). I felt like he was benefitting from me while I was suffering. I brought up to him that I felt alone all the time and it was always met with a sincere apology but no changed behavior.
Eventually I gave him an ultimatum that I was going to leave if things didn't change. Then he would change for a couple weeks and then it would go right back to what it was. I would communicate with him again and again and it felt like I was nagging him to meet my needs. I felt like I must've done something wrong, at the very least enabled the behavior. I wanted to move out, go to the gym, eat right, get my life together and he didn't have near as much will to do those things as I did. I was so filled with resentment I started emotionally clocking out, and then that's when he started to change things.
He started doing all the things I've been asking him to do for over a year (some things have still not changed though) and he 's about to get a job he's dead set on keeping, he found a medication he thinks is working, and we have plans to do fun things this year, but I'm so weary. I'm having a hard time putting faith into his ability to offer stability. I'm also having a hard time building that trust back into him after all the empty promises he's made.
At the height of our "conflict" (we never yelled at each or name called) we were having a discussion on financial matters...again.. and when I expressed I was tired of buying food for the both of us he said "Well I just won't eat then" and when I told him I was tired of being the only one to pay for the fun dates to keep our relationship exciting he said "I never asked you to spend that money." Yet for an anniversary present I made a "date idea" jar and it was filled with little pieces of paper with cheap/free/at home/outside date ideas. I gifted it to him and only ONCE has he expressed interest in using the jar, and when he pulled a piece of paper out and read the date idea he said "I don't feel like doing that" and put the piece of paper back in the jar, then back on the shelf.
It feels like it's only changed because I've begged him and said I'd leave if things didn't change. But now that he's proven he was fully capable of doing all those things all along, and just watched me suffer while I held up both ends of our relationship, it makes me wonder what would happen if he spiraled into another depressive episode. Would this same thing happen again?
He's a kind man who's always there to lend a helping hand if asked, my family adores him, he's the kind of man that would NEVER cheat, he has good friends that respect and love me, he's caring to animals, he listens attentively when I have something to say, etc. but I wonder to myself... is that the bare minimum as well? Now that he's doing a majority of the things I asked, is it wrong to leave? I just still have so much resentment left and no idea how to get rid of it and I still find myself emotionally distant. Or is it valid to leave because it took so much begging and suffering to get here and I can't guarantee it won't happen again? TL;DR - Boyfriend was putting A+ effort into the relationship in the beginning, stopped putting in effort a year in and was putting in basically nothing, then after me communicating frustrations multiple times and finally an ultimatum, he straightened up but it still doesn't feel legit.
2023.06.06 03:33 ThrowRAjuiceman 29F crossing boundaries/self centered?? What do I 21F do?
My sister (29F) has came home from school. I (21F) and she has been showing no respect to boundaries and showing self centeredness and I don’t know what to do.
Recently she has been involving herself in my plans with my friends without being invited, every time I am on the phone or make plans with my best friend she always asks to come along and I don’t know what to say. Originally I thought this would be a onetime thing but it is every time we hangout now she asks to come.
Also there have been a handful of times where my boyfriend and were planning to go out to eat or run errands together and she’ll put the both of us on the spot and ask if she can come along. Obviously I think it’s good for her to come along sometimes but it has became a habit of always asking to come along or even to stop and pick her up things when I’m out with friends.
Another issue I’ve been having with her is whenever I go to her with an issue regarding anything she instantly tells me solutions and then dives into the way she does certain things and how I need to do things the way she does. what do I do? I’m scared to confront her about anything because I feel like I have to walk around eggshells.
TL;DR I think my sister is crossing boundaries but I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I am overreacting and i feel like im walking on eggshells
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Recently she has been involving herself in my plans with my friends without being invited, every time I am on the phone or make plans with my best friend she always asks to come along and I don’t know what to say. Originally I thought this would be a onetime thing but it is every time we hangout now she asks to come.
Also there have been a handful of times where my boyfriend and were planning to go out to eat or run errands together and she’ll put the both of us on the spot and ask if she can come along. Obviously I think it’s good for her to come along sometimes but it has became a habit of always asking to come along or even to stop and pick her up things when I’m out with friends.
Another issue I’ve been having with her is whenever I go to her with an issue regarding anything she instantly tells me solutions and then dives into the way she does certain things and how I need to do things the way she does. what do I do? I’m scared to confront her about anything because I feel like I have to walk around eggshells.
TL;DR I think my sister is crossing boundaries but I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if I am overreacting and i feel like im walking on eggshells
2023.06.06 03:32 HokageSeven Message from a guide? Thoughts on this message appreciated
So I asked for my guides to come in and write a message through me. If you don’t believe in that stuff I do not blame you, it sounds very hippy dippy. Idk if I believe it myself but I thought I would give it a try. I was asking what I need to do to fully shift and how I can make the final push. This is what came through:
“Hi my name is Kylar. I have something to show you. Open your heart to it and it will be seen. You are not opening up enough for your shifting to work. It’s a shame because you are working so hard. Feel the love and you will see it.”
I asked for clarification because wtf does that mean? Response:
“You have to let yourself feel like you are there. Like your love is received. You are going because you are loved there. So loved. So feel it. I know you can shift because I have seen you do it. Imagine you are already there. Don’t wait to be there to receive their love.”
I asked for more clarification. Response:
“You can connect to them from anywhere. When you really feel it that will be the moment you shift. Telling yourself to believe only gets you so far. You must be open to know that they already love you whether your conscious is there or not.”
So there you have it. I don’t know if that makes sense to you but it kinda does to me. Whether I shift or not the people in my dr life love me so if I can feel like they already do without me ever having proof I will shift. It also seems that telling myself to believe is different from “knowing” or “feeling” that my dr is real. Any thoughts on this would be great.
(Note: I looked up the name Kylar because that didn’t sound like a guide name to me lol. The name is Gaelic and means belief, confidence, trust, good omen. Interesting.)
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“Hi my name is Kylar. I have something to show you. Open your heart to it and it will be seen. You are not opening up enough for your shifting to work. It’s a shame because you are working so hard. Feel the love and you will see it.”
I asked for clarification because wtf does that mean? Response:
“You have to let yourself feel like you are there. Like your love is received. You are going because you are loved there. So loved. So feel it. I know you can shift because I have seen you do it. Imagine you are already there. Don’t wait to be there to receive their love.”
I asked for more clarification. Response:
“You can connect to them from anywhere. When you really feel it that will be the moment you shift. Telling yourself to believe only gets you so far. You must be open to know that they already love you whether your conscious is there or not.”
So there you have it. I don’t know if that makes sense to you but it kinda does to me. Whether I shift or not the people in my dr life love me so if I can feel like they already do without me ever having proof I will shift. It also seems that telling myself to believe is different from “knowing” or “feeling” that my dr is real. Any thoughts on this would be great.
(Note: I looked up the name Kylar because that didn’t sound like a guide name to me lol. The name is Gaelic and means belief, confidence, trust, good omen. Interesting.)
2023.06.06 03:25 pokemonyugiohfan21 Why Pegasus' millennium eye doesn't actually guarantee him winning a duel
If you look at Yugi vs Pegasus, Pegasus just happened to have counters for whatever Yugi was using, so he either knows every card in Yugi's deck already and prepared and just got lucky drawing the counters, or it's all just manufactured drama. For example when he used the trap card "trap displacement" which transfers the effects of a targeting trap card to another target, he just happened to have that the moment Yugi had spellbinding circle *the only targeting trap card in his deck*.
TL.DR his eye gives him no advantage if he bricks. If he doesn't have the right card, even knowing what the opponent will do and their cards won't help anything. I mean yeah in general the eye is a broken millennium item in duels since you can see if the opponent has ash blossom or mirror force so you know not to search or attack, or bait the ash blossom.
The biggest advantage it could really give is knowing what someone plans to do so he could for example chain his own ash blossom if the person has their search target known beforehand.
But back to the anime, Pegasus actually isn't that good and the anime just makes it seem like he is to build up the drama. Even if Yugi's friends didn't block Pegasus' mind reading in the shadow game Yugi still would have been able to play mystic box and there was nothing he could do. In the last turn however the blocking did matter since he couldn't see kuriboh and multiply.
So yeah, the Pegasus duel was just manufactured drama.
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TL.DR his eye gives him no advantage if he bricks. If he doesn't have the right card, even knowing what the opponent will do and their cards won't help anything. I mean yeah in general the eye is a broken millennium item in duels since you can see if the opponent has ash blossom or mirror force so you know not to search or attack, or bait the ash blossom.
The biggest advantage it could really give is knowing what someone plans to do so he could for example chain his own ash blossom if the person has their search target known beforehand.
But back to the anime, Pegasus actually isn't that good and the anime just makes it seem like he is to build up the drama. Even if Yugi's friends didn't block Pegasus' mind reading in the shadow game Yugi still would have been able to play mystic box and there was nothing he could do. In the last turn however the blocking did matter since he couldn't see kuriboh and multiply.
So yeah, the Pegasus duel was just manufactured drama.
2023.06.06 03:15 Clever_User_Name_ FAQ Guides
Does anyone know of a good Faq for SF Duel?
I know it's a money grab that we will all get screwed on eventually when it just dies.
But I'm stuck on 2 Zangiefs.
Now, I get it. Different teams with different assists can lead to greatness. Which is why I'm asking this here.
I'm old. I remember a website with FAQs for days... the address had a similar name.
If there is one, anyone know it? If not... how dafuq do I drop these 2 Zangiefs on 340 Supreme Fist !?! 🤣
Tl&Dr: Daaaaaaamn... fuk this game.
submitted by Clever_User_Name_ to streetfighterduel [link] [comments]
I know it's a money grab that we will all get screwed on eventually when it just dies.
But I'm stuck on 2 Zangiefs.
Now, I get it. Different teams with different assists can lead to greatness. Which is why I'm asking this here.
I'm old. I remember a website with FAQs for days... the address had a similar name.
If there is one, anyone know it? If not... how dafuq do I drop these 2 Zangiefs on 340 Supreme Fist !?! 🤣
Tl&Dr: Daaaaaaamn... fuk this game.
2023.06.06 03:13 xartux Saw a post here of a 28 year old saying all hope was lost for them. I felt their pain. I am a 27 year old male who was diagnosed with end stage liver disease, alcoholic hepatitis and severe chronic Cirrhosis exactly 1 year ago. Alcoholism is the worst addiction I’ve ever experienced.
I’ve always lurked this sub and have posted a generalization of my medical problems when I was first diagnosed. I saw this post and wanted to share an update a year later.
I was an innocent kid for most of my life. I had horrible untreated anxiety that I didn’t understand and it got the best of me when I turned 21. I had never really drank or done anything of the sorts until about 19-20 and then the day I turned 21 I was finally able to purchase liquor myself… and it got out of control.
I was diagnosed last spring at 26 with Liver failure, alcoholic hepatitis and Cirrhosis of the liver with advanced scarring. I was rushed to the emergency trauma center near me in Minneapolis Minnesota after my now fiancée returned home from a work conference out of state and found me in our bedroom completely yellow, tremulous and swollen legs and fluid build up in my stomach. When she left the week before I went on what would be my last drinking bender.
For the past 6 years I was consuming at minimum a liter of 80 proof vodka all the way up to a 1.75 liter handle per day. I stopped once for 2 weeks in 2020 after a small medical scare and also became sick with covid. That’s the longest break I had for those 6 years up until my hospitalization.
I spent a week in the hospital as the doctors tried to do anything they could do to get my increasing liver enzymes and bilirubin down. I was yellow and in a lot of pain. I was immediately placed into CIWA withdrawal protocol and was monitored for worsening mental status and seizures.
I had an MRI done, 2 ultra sounds and countless testing on my first night. I was informed I would need to undergo a transplant in the future as long as they could combat my symptoms. After 3 days the doctors started losing hope of getting it to come down with proven methods. They were left with no choice but to discharge me after a few more days with experimental steroids.
I returned home and was bed ridden while my fiancé spoon fed these steroids once daily and we hoped for a positive outcome. A week later I had blood work done and my bilirubin was decreasing by the day. I was so relieved.
My family is filled with alcoholics and I feel like I was foolish to think it wouldn’t come for me too.
I have since had countless imaging and ultra sounds done that show permanent damage and cirrhotic liver with abnormally enlarged spleen that hurts like a MF. I am now almost 400 days sober and have lost a ton of weight. I finished up my outpatient treatment at the original hospital and gastro clinic here in Minneapolis. I am now getting set up with a liver specialist at the Mayo Clinic here. I will be there getting 2nd opinion tests and imaging done to determine my future. I will most likely need a transplant down the road.
I’m not here to lecture as I have problems of my own still and crave alcohol intensely from time to do. Sharing in hopes it helps someone else out. I quit cold turkey the day I checked in. It was hard as hell at first and I don’t think I could’ve ever made it this long if it weren’t for the simple answer of “Drink again and die” from the doctors, but has gotten easier. I am proud of where I’m at but have a long way to go and I have trouble believing I will truly never pick up a drink again. If I lived a normal length life… that’s a long fucking time for a slip up to happen.
On the 3rd morning of my stay I was pretty certain I wasn’t going to make it out of the hospital alive.
(I was able to keep my drinking a secret for 6 years and no one knew about my problem or never questioned me. I didn’t want to get caught and face the embarrassment to my family. I would lock myself up in my apartment and drink up to a 1.75 liter handle by myself, pass out and repeat the ritual the next day.)
I awoke that day and thought about how I was going to have to call up my family members, brother and sister and tell them I wouldn’t be around much longer. I couldn’t stop thinking about how I would never get to see my newly born niece grow up and how selfish my actions were. They would have been so taken off guard and would have to watch me go a slow death. My liver was already shutting down and the only thing left was my kidneys next. After those shut down it’s game over.
The last 6 years of my life are a blur. I now run a small business from home while I build my life back up but I still have moments with other drugs on random occasions I can get them. Nothing too serious.
Anyways, sorry for the long winded story.
TL; DR
I went to the hospital last year spring 2022 and was diagnosed with advanced liver disease. Addiction can fuck off and so can alcohol.
I drank a liter of vodka a day for 6 years. Don’t be dumb like me and ignore the signs of TRUE illness after your body LITERALLY can’t take it anymore. I wasn’t going to go into any doctor until I had final evidence that something wasn’t right for good.
Here’s a few links with some of my medical experience from that incident. With 400 days.
https://imgur.com/gallery/IrwXhha
https://imgur.com/gallery/7gpxNsy
This is a first for me and I’m only sharing this picture of me when I checked into the emergency room. I just want to show how nuts it is that I did this to myself and it took for my fucking eyes to turn yellow for me to finally face the music.
https://imgur.com/gallery/lf5xKdl
Peace & love
-Michael
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I was an innocent kid for most of my life. I had horrible untreated anxiety that I didn’t understand and it got the best of me when I turned 21. I had never really drank or done anything of the sorts until about 19-20 and then the day I turned 21 I was finally able to purchase liquor myself… and it got out of control.
I was diagnosed last spring at 26 with Liver failure, alcoholic hepatitis and Cirrhosis of the liver with advanced scarring. I was rushed to the emergency trauma center near me in Minneapolis Minnesota after my now fiancée returned home from a work conference out of state and found me in our bedroom completely yellow, tremulous and swollen legs and fluid build up in my stomach. When she left the week before I went on what would be my last drinking bender.
For the past 6 years I was consuming at minimum a liter of 80 proof vodka all the way up to a 1.75 liter handle per day. I stopped once for 2 weeks in 2020 after a small medical scare and also became sick with covid. That’s the longest break I had for those 6 years up until my hospitalization.
I spent a week in the hospital as the doctors tried to do anything they could do to get my increasing liver enzymes and bilirubin down. I was yellow and in a lot of pain. I was immediately placed into CIWA withdrawal protocol and was monitored for worsening mental status and seizures.
I had an MRI done, 2 ultra sounds and countless testing on my first night. I was informed I would need to undergo a transplant in the future as long as they could combat my symptoms. After 3 days the doctors started losing hope of getting it to come down with proven methods. They were left with no choice but to discharge me after a few more days with experimental steroids.
I returned home and was bed ridden while my fiancé spoon fed these steroids once daily and we hoped for a positive outcome. A week later I had blood work done and my bilirubin was decreasing by the day. I was so relieved.
My family is filled with alcoholics and I feel like I was foolish to think it wouldn’t come for me too.
I have since had countless imaging and ultra sounds done that show permanent damage and cirrhotic liver with abnormally enlarged spleen that hurts like a MF. I am now almost 400 days sober and have lost a ton of weight. I finished up my outpatient treatment at the original hospital and gastro clinic here in Minneapolis. I am now getting set up with a liver specialist at the Mayo Clinic here. I will be there getting 2nd opinion tests and imaging done to determine my future. I will most likely need a transplant down the road.
I’m not here to lecture as I have problems of my own still and crave alcohol intensely from time to do. Sharing in hopes it helps someone else out. I quit cold turkey the day I checked in. It was hard as hell at first and I don’t think I could’ve ever made it this long if it weren’t for the simple answer of “Drink again and die” from the doctors, but has gotten easier. I am proud of where I’m at but have a long way to go and I have trouble believing I will truly never pick up a drink again. If I lived a normal length life… that’s a long fucking time for a slip up to happen.
On the 3rd morning of my stay I was pretty certain I wasn’t going to make it out of the hospital alive.
(I was able to keep my drinking a secret for 6 years and no one knew about my problem or never questioned me. I didn’t want to get caught and face the embarrassment to my family. I would lock myself up in my apartment and drink up to a 1.75 liter handle by myself, pass out and repeat the ritual the next day.)
I awoke that day and thought about how I was going to have to call up my family members, brother and sister and tell them I wouldn’t be around much longer. I couldn’t stop thinking about how I would never get to see my newly born niece grow up and how selfish my actions were. They would have been so taken off guard and would have to watch me go a slow death. My liver was already shutting down and the only thing left was my kidneys next. After those shut down it’s game over.
The last 6 years of my life are a blur. I now run a small business from home while I build my life back up but I still have moments with other drugs on random occasions I can get them. Nothing too serious.
Anyways, sorry for the long winded story.
TL; DR
I went to the hospital last year spring 2022 and was diagnosed with advanced liver disease. Addiction can fuck off and so can alcohol.
I drank a liter of vodka a day for 6 years. Don’t be dumb like me and ignore the signs of TRUE illness after your body LITERALLY can’t take it anymore. I wasn’t going to go into any doctor until I had final evidence that something wasn’t right for good.
Here’s a few links with some of my medical experience from that incident. With 400 days.
https://imgur.com/gallery/IrwXhha
https://imgur.com/gallery/7gpxNsy
This is a first for me and I’m only sharing this picture of me when I checked into the emergency room. I just want to show how nuts it is that I did this to myself and it took for my fucking eyes to turn yellow for me to finally face the music.
https://imgur.com/gallery/lf5xKdl
Peace & love
-Michael
2023.06.06 03:10 AirlineTiny9620 Puppy swollen face Friday and Today - food related?
Hello there!
First, I should start this by saying we HAVE taken our puppy to the vet, I just have some questions after.
Species: Dog
Breed: English Springer Spaniel
Weight: ~27 lbs
Age: almost 5 months
Duration: ~4 days on/off
Sex/neuter status: male/ not neutered yet
Location: USA
Our puppy started to get itchy recently and we was on Orijen Chicken Ancient Grains puppy food so I went to change his protein to a lamb so we switched to Nuto Lamb and Brown Rice puppy food. I probably started with 1/2 old and 1/2 new (probably should have done less). First meal with this new food was on Thursday for lunch and we also introduced a Zesty Paws calming treat (he’s had 1 before from our trainer) and everything else about our routine was normal.
On Friday we already had a vet appt for his allergies but around noon we noticed his under eyes are puffy, husband checks on him about 2 hours later (in his crate) and his eye lid and under eye blew up and almost got as big as a tennis ball. We rushed to vet and they gave him Benadryl, Steroid, and allergy shot. They told us it was a bug bite/sting. We doubted this just because we felt confident if he was stung he would have cried. We watch him like a hawk in our backyard. We bring him home and it continues to go down and back to normal.
Saturday- normal day, giving him Benadryl at home directed by dr
Sunday- go in the pool and he did get an upset tummy we think from swimming/feeding too closely. He threw up literally just him lunch, no bile. We decide since he threw up and was acting normal we could give him dinner like normal so we did.
Monday (this morning)- he wakes me up to what I think is the sound of throw up but his face swelled again but this time more in his cheeks and muzzle and you could tell it was bothering his breathing a little like snorting, not his throat. I gave him a Benadryl at home. We rushed to the vet right away and they gave him steroid and kept an eye on him.
This is where my question comes in. We have not changed our routine other than this new food but the vets told us food was unlikely but could be possible. They put him on Royal Canin Hydrolyzed Protein diet and we will introduce foods again later. Is it so far fetched it could be from switching his food? Is there something in our regular routine that could randomly spark this? To me it feels like is a very good possibility it could be food but I don’t get that sense from the vets.
tl;dr Our puppy’s face swelled 2 times in 4 days, is switching his food a great possibility of why this happened?
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First, I should start this by saying we HAVE taken our puppy to the vet, I just have some questions after.
Species: Dog
Breed: English Springer Spaniel
Weight: ~27 lbs
Age: almost 5 months
Duration: ~4 days on/off
Sex/neuter status: male/ not neutered yet
Location: USA
Our puppy started to get itchy recently and we was on Orijen Chicken Ancient Grains puppy food so I went to change his protein to a lamb so we switched to Nuto Lamb and Brown Rice puppy food. I probably started with 1/2 old and 1/2 new (probably should have done less). First meal with this new food was on Thursday for lunch and we also introduced a Zesty Paws calming treat (he’s had 1 before from our trainer) and everything else about our routine was normal.
On Friday we already had a vet appt for his allergies but around noon we noticed his under eyes are puffy, husband checks on him about 2 hours later (in his crate) and his eye lid and under eye blew up and almost got as big as a tennis ball. We rushed to vet and they gave him Benadryl, Steroid, and allergy shot. They told us it was a bug bite/sting. We doubted this just because we felt confident if he was stung he would have cried. We watch him like a hawk in our backyard. We bring him home and it continues to go down and back to normal.
Saturday- normal day, giving him Benadryl at home directed by dr
Sunday- go in the pool and he did get an upset tummy we think from swimming/feeding too closely. He threw up literally just him lunch, no bile. We decide since he threw up and was acting normal we could give him dinner like normal so we did.
Monday (this morning)- he wakes me up to what I think is the sound of throw up but his face swelled again but this time more in his cheeks and muzzle and you could tell it was bothering his breathing a little like snorting, not his throat. I gave him a Benadryl at home. We rushed to the vet right away and they gave him steroid and kept an eye on him.
This is where my question comes in. We have not changed our routine other than this new food but the vets told us food was unlikely but could be possible. They put him on Royal Canin Hydrolyzed Protein diet and we will introduce foods again later. Is it so far fetched it could be from switching his food? Is there something in our regular routine that could randomly spark this? To me it feels like is a very good possibility it could be food but I don’t get that sense from the vets.
tl;dr Our puppy’s face swelled 2 times in 4 days, is switching his food a great possibility of why this happened?
2023.06.06 03:09 sullycantwell Augie Maniaci cooperating notes
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History of the Milwaukee Outfit
-Al Capone was a camorrista and an associate of Masseria and Capone had a large scale gambling and bootlegging operation
-Joe Aiello would gamble at Capone's places, but when he would lose, he would have the gambling operation raided and Aiello's men would take much more money than was lost
-Capone was paying protection to Masseria
-A dispute arose between Masseria and Aiello and Masseria than brought Capone in and made him a capodecina and told Capone to kill Aiello
-In 1926 or 1927, there was a "Appalachian type meeting" (Generale assemblea?) in Pewaukee, Wisconsin. The meetings purpose was to make peace in Chicago, but other families attended
-Tough Tony Capesio was one of the shooters in the St. Valentine's day massacre
-Jack Zutta, a Jewish Aiello associate, was murdered by Capone's gang
-The Milwaukee mafia banned people from helping Aiello.
-Sam Aiello, Joe Caminiti, and Migele Mineo were former Aiello members who fled Chicago to join the Milwaukee family
-Sam Aiello wasn't sympathetic about his brother. Sam returned to Chicago later and was in Jim DiGeorge's crew
-Carl Caputa left Chicago and went to Madison where he became boss. Joe "Joe Pizza Pie" Aiello (unspecified relation to the Joe Capone wared with) went with Caputa to Madison
-Milwaukee didn't try to extort any gamblers until Sam Ferrara
-Al Capone was Neopolitan, the next boss was Tony Accardo who was "Thelast Sicilian to be an important boss," Accardo was succeeded by a Neopolotan Sam Giancana (Pretty sure this info is wrong)
-Chicago outfit was a "Money grabbing operation" where only a few leaders profit "at the expense of the general membership" this had an effect on Milwaukee
-Chicago took over Milwaukee in 1952
-Sam Ferrara wanted to have a piece of the Ogden social club which was a gambling place that Frank Balistrieri had a piece on and Balistieri was Son-In-Law to John Alioto. Balistrieri said no to Ferrara and then Ferrara shelved Balistrieri. Milwaukee then asked Chicago to help them with all the trouble.
-A general meeting was held in 1952; Tony Accardo, Rocco Fischetti, and Sam Giancana attended. Sam Ferrara was taken down as boss and replaced by John Alioto
-Alioto reinstated Balistrieri and made him a capodecina
-While Alioto was boss, no gamblers or businessmen were extorted
-John DiTrapani was a capodecina who didn't like Alioto, so he said he would spend $90,000 and even was willing to finance some murders
-One of DiTrapani's friends "Pasternak" lost a lot of money gambling with the outfit and DiTrapani made it known he was very upset
-Furthermore, Alioto heard about Ditrapani's plans to become boss and this sealed DiTrapani's fate
-Chicago were the ones who ordered DiTrapani's murder, not Alioto
-DiTrapani and Frank LaGalbo (a member and DiTrapani associate) were called to a meeting by the Chicago outfit. The meeting was going to be in Milwaukee though.
-LaGalbo warned DiTrapani not to go. LaGabo himself wasn't going to go.
-DiTrapani went anyway and on March 16, 1954 he was murdered. the following day he was found shot in his car
-LaGalbo was very well connected to Chicago and he set up a transfer where he would be in the Chicago family in the decina of Frank LaPorte
-LaPorte was centered in Chicago Heights
-Jack Enea was also apart of the faction that wanted Alioto taken down as boss. he wasn't killed until November, 1954 (Chicago authorized it)
-In January of 1962, Joe Alioto retired and Frank P. Balistrieri took over, Alioto was upset about this. Alioto apparently felt it should've gone to an older man
-furthermore, Alioto was upset that Balistrieri had an affair with his wife's cousin
-Balistrieri began shaking down gamblers and businessmen
-Balistrieri was collecting $500-$600 from Bruno Ramazini and John Volpe who ran the Holiday House
-Despite not collecting from Frank and Jimmy Fazio who ran restaurants, there was an incident where a bomb went off. After this, Balistrieri went to Florida and when he came back he said that they had a piece of Jimmy Fazio's place in Fort Lauderdale
-Balistrieri was not liked by older members because he never consulted with anyone before making decisions and Maniaci even said it would not surprise him if Balistrieri was murdered. Maniaci said if anyone were to kill Balistrieri, it would be the outfit
II. Organization and Leadership -The 1957 Apalachin meeting was due to Albert Anastasia taking forcible action which affected other bosses without telling them.
-Anastasia was killed due to the disappearance of two unnamed men
-John Alioto and Frank Balistrieri were going to go to Apalachin but didnt at the last moment. Also, attendance was not mandatory at Apalachin
-Maniaci didn't know too much about the commission or its structure, but he said it had around 7 members and though he doesn't know if there is a "boss of bosses," if anyone was it would be Giancana (clearly shows his midwest bias)
-Giancana had control over Madison, Rockford, and Springfield
-Balistrieri went to Chicago periodically for meetings with Giancana, Battaglia, or capodecina Felix "Milwaukee Phil" Alderisio. These meeting were at the underboss Sam Battaglia's farm
-occassionally, Balistrieri would meet with Alderisio, Battaglia, and Marshal Caifano in a Milwaukee hotel
-Ralph Capone of Mercer, Wisconsin isn't connected with Milwaukee or Chicago
-At one point, the Pfister hotel manager Marvin Billet made a deal and Kansas City member Sebastian "Buster" Balestrere (who was "imported" to Milwaukee along with Joseph Gurera for the purpose of shaking bookmakers and businessmen down) found out and this led to Balestrere having leverage over Billet. Eventually, the Fox Head Brewery bought a hotel in Jamiaca and Buster made Billet manager. Balistrieri asked Giancana if he wanted to "take over a large gambling casino in the hotel." Billet lost the managorial position and their plan didn't work.
-Balistrieri is involved in the Continental Music Company.
-The chicago outfit may have 500 members (this is wrong as they may not have had 100 at their peak, though it shows how the smaller families saw them)
-Sam Giancana is the boss, Sam "Teets" Battaglia is the underboss, and the following are capodecina: Felix Alderisio, Marshal Caifano, Frank LaPorte, Tony Maccalucci (ph), and Ross Prio
-Ross Prio is a north side leader who was originally in Jim DiGeorge's crew
-Maniaci heard complaints that people are upset in Chicago that only a few are making money. Also, they are upset that Sam Giancana "is too much of a playboy." CI also advised that John Cerone may be Giancana's successor. Cerone is very close to Tony Accardo
-Frank Balistrieri is related to former Kansas City boss James "Big Jim" Balistrieri (It appears his real last name was Balestrere, though his fathers last name was Balistrieri)
-Joseph Cusimano and Joe Jellosa (or Jealouso) are two Kansas City members who have visited Milwaukee in the past
-The Kansas City import Joseph Gurera was said to have killed two politicians (clearly referring to the infamous hit that left Charles Binaggio and Charles Gargotta dead)
-Balistrieri made Gurera a capodecina and Buster Balestrere worked under him. Both members went back to Kansas City in 1963 after pressure was put on Milwaukee for Anthony Biernat's murder
-On April 18, 1964 Peter Balistrieri's (Frank's brother) daughter married Leonard Drewek, a non-Italian. John Molle, Buster Balestrere, and Jim Balestrere (Not made) all went to the wedding
-Peter Balistrieri is a capodecina
-Rockford's boss is Joseph Zummutto, the underboss is Frank Bucemi, and the consigliere is Joseph Zitto. (FNU) Caltegerone is a member who's old and used to be close to Milwaukee capodecina Pasquale Migliaccio. Caltergerone may be a reference to Carl "Charlie Vince" Caltegerone
-Madison, Wisconsin has 10-15 members. The boss is Carl Caputo and Joseph "Joe Pizza Pie" Aiello is a member. Both are wealthy with real estate investments.
-Benny DeSalvo was a capodecina in Madison, but died in February of 1964 at 84 years old. He was buried in Chicago
-The following is the boss succession of Milwaukee: Vito Guardalabene (Nicola Gentile reported Joseph Vallone was the underboss in 1915) Peter Guardalabene (Son of Vito) Joseph "Big Joe" Amato Joseph Vallone (Boss from mid 1920's-mid 1930's) Joseph Gumina was the underboss to Vallone (also says Gumina was capodecina, maybe he controlled a crew along with being consigliere) Charles Zarcone was the consigliere Pasquale Migliaccio was a capodecina Migele Mineo was a capodecina Tom Lucua (ph) was a capodecina Sam Ferrara (Mid 1930's-1952) Joe Gumina was the underboss (again lists him as capo too) Charles Zarcone is listed as consigliere Pasquale Migliaccio was a capodecina Migele Mineo was a capodecina Joseph Caminiti is also a captain (may have been captain under Vallone as well) John Alioto (1952-1962) Joe Gumina was the underboss (again lists him as capo too) Migele Mineo was a capodecina John DiTrapani was a capodecina until his murder in 1954 Pasquale Migliaccio was a capodecina Frank Balistrieri was a capodecina as well Frank Balistrieri (1962-time document was typed) appears he had no underboss Charles Zarcone would be consigliere if Balistrieri had one, Maniaci doesn't know if he actually was though John Alioto was a capodecina and had the older members in his crew Peter Balistrieri was a capodecina "who has active members under his direction" -Older members are displeased with Balistrieri for not consulting any members and making Joseph Gurera (Kansas City) a capodecina instead of a local member
-Older members blame Balistrieri for the publicity LCN is getting due to Anthony Biernat's murder also there's resentment because no one is making money
-Maniaci said he wouldn't be surprised if they killed Balistrieri one day
-On January 4th, 14th, and the 31st Balistrieri held parties at Gallagher's restaurant in an attempt to get the opposite faction to like him. He planned to have another similar meeting a month later. He also assured the members that jobs would soon open up and he gave Vito Aiello, John Aiello, and Maniaci himself jobs at gambling places.
-Balistrieri is very cautious in regards to his personal movements
-Another CI reported the meeting at Gallagher's was to fix the bad feelings between Myron Jennaro and Paul Bogosian who are both associates of the Milwaukee family
-the following is the structure according to Maniaci: capo: boss sottocapo: Italian not Sicilian term for underboss "consuleri": (see previous comment about spelling) the consigliere is the counselor who is usually an older member capodecina: heads a crew, means "head of ten", but members sometimes have 50 members in their crew (or in some cases zero members) No mention of soldiers
-the following are popular terms used by members: Amico Nostro: friend of ours; used by fellow members to indicate someones a member avugad: means lawyer, Maniaci said there's no significance as a term in Milwaukee, but it probably was just not for low level members. Normally the avugad is a representative on the commission. for example, Milwaukee's avugad would've been Chicago's boss cumpare: means godfather; used to show closeness to someone don: Italian term of respect, not a mafia term onorata: means honor, Maniaci said he's never heard the mafia called onorata society which many sources have reported omerta: Maniaci said it's to express any qualities in the word "manly" sagia: "chair, committee of boss, underboss, consuleri [sic], and capodecina [sic] Tourna: general meeting where all members attend; for an important reason
-the following are members of Milwaukee identified by Maniaci: John Aiello: made under Ferrara Vito Aiello: Made under Ferrara John Alioto: Made under Guardalabene, was boss then capodecina Albert Albana: Suspect in Biernat's murder and was made a month after in January 1963 Mike Albano: Runs Angelo's Pizzaria, long time member
III. Membership -John Alioto did not make any members, but Vallone, Ferrara, and Balistrieri did. (which must've happened when the books were closed either suggesting the midwest didn't follow this or he did it on the sly)
-To be made originally, you had to be Sicilian, but they switched it to just be full Italian
-Members don't have to kill, but this has been a rule in the past, to be made
-Associates are proposed by a made member who knows the associates potential. In the past, the name would go around to all members and if they objected, he couldn't be made
-the associate could cooperate with law enforcement to be made
-in the past, all members had to be present at the initiation ceremonies (Maniaci calls them "tourna" meaning a general membership meeting). They no longer do that though
-The Biernat murderers were alleged to be Steve DeSalvo, Dominic Principe, and Albert Albana. DeSalvo contacted Biernat before the killing
-during the making ceremony, both the proposed member and his sponser's fingers are pricked and their blood is mixed. Then everyone present joins hands and a picture of a saint is burned (presumably in the proposed members hand) and the proposed member takes an oath in Italian to put the organization over everything including family and religion
-Members must obey all orders under threat of death
-No members can deal drugs or they will be killed
-Members need permission before engaging in something that may affect another member
-In the past disputes between members were taken before the "Sagia" (This is also called the Seggia, consiglio, or the Sicilian term consignu)
-The "Sagia'' was composed of a boss, underboss, "consuleri", and the capodecina (the term "consuleri" suggests multiple consigliere, but the document has used the singular and plural terms interchangeably. traditionally, the consiglio had multiple consigliere though. Also "capodecina" suggests one captain, which wouldn't really make sense in the context so it can be assumed they mean all capidecina in the family)
-Balistrieri no longer consults anyone except Chicago and only for big issues
-Maniaci named the following as members of the LCN family in Milwaukee (these are just from memory): John Aiello: Made under Ferrara Vito Aiello: Made under Ferrara; John Aiello's brother John Alioto: Made under Vito Guardalabene; capodecina Albert Albana: Made in early 1964, after the murder of Anthony Biernat Mike Albano: Runs Angelo's Pizzaria; long time member Tony Albano: Mike's uncle; retired Frank Balistrieri: boss; made with John DiTrapani; in Joe Ferrara's crew?; Made capodecina under John Alioto Joseph Balistrieri: Frank's dad; longtime member Peter Balistrieri: Frank's brother; capodecina Joseph Caminiti: Secretary treasurer of Local 257; made in Chicago under Joe Aiello; came to Milwaukee during Aiello-Capone war; bootlegger during prohibition; capodeinca under Vallone and Ferrara; Balistrieri's closest confidant even closer to Frank than Peter; Married to John Alioto's daughter Harry DeAngelo: Ferrara didn't like him; made in 1963; works sanitation or garbage department; 55 years old Carl Di Maggio: long time soldier Salvatore DiMaggio: Carlo's son; burglar eith extesnive record; made under Ferrara Benny DeSalvo: Made in 1963; nephew of old Madison boss Benny DeSalvo who died in 1964; lived in New York for a while but moved back to Milwaukee and went into construction Steve DeSalvo: Close to Balistrieri; primary suspect in Biernat murder; made one month after the murder Sam Ferrara: former boss; operates liquor store; inactive Joseph Gumina; underboss and capodecina under Vallone, Ferrara, and Alioto; he was a boxer after coming to America; bootlegger and then worked at A.O. Smith corp.; capable of murder; his son married Ferrara's daughter August Maniaci: Long time soldier Santo Marino: Brother-in-law to Ferrara; not active; operates tevern Migele "Mike" Mineo: Made in chicago; came to Milwaukee during Aiello-Capone war; capodecina under Vallone, Ferrara, and Alioto; employed by Schlitz Brewery John Pernice: former bootlegger; unemployed; not known to hold leadership position Dominic Principe: Another Biernat murder suspect; made following murder; lives in Illinois Joe Rizzo: inactive; worked as bartender in multiple places Vito Seidita: inactive; 55 years old; works for city of Milwaukee, maybe in street department Joseph Spero: inactive; works for city of Milwaukee, maybe in garbage department Charles Zarcone: consigliere during Vallone, Ferrara, and Alioto; may be consigliere under Balistrieri, but Maniaci doesnt know
Maniaci also listed the following as members affiliated with other families that live in Milwaukee: Frank LaGalbo: runs Chico's restaurant; was supposed to be killed along with DiTrapani; transfered to Chicago under Frank LaPorte John DiBella: member from Italy; close to Joe Bonanno; head of Grande Cheese Company Ralph "bottles" Capone: Chicago member; no importance in the underworld James DiGeorge: operates stock farm; owns land in Adams county, Wisconsin; former capodecina of North Chicago; years ago he was supposed to be killed, but got a pass; lives in exile in Wisconsin (likely shelved)
-Maniaci said that even your immidiate family may not know your made and it's typical for people to keep their sons out of the mafia
Maniaci named the following as people not members of Milwaukee, but closely associated with Milwaukee: Walter "Walter Blackie" Brocca: worked forvarious businesses on behalf of Frank Balistrieri Tony Bruno: No member of Bruno's family has ever been a member Sam Cefalu: gambler; lives at 1606 North Jackson; employed by Balistrieri Sam Cefalu: lives at 3461 North Cramer; not related to the other Sam Cefalu; worked for Balistrieri in a gambling office Anthony "Sheriff Cefalu" Cefalu: Brother of Sam (doesnt say which one); employed as gambler Gus Chiaverotti: Working for Frank Balistrieri in Continental Music Co.; closely associates with Balistrieri Sam DaQuista: No other DaQuista family member has been connected Joe Dentice: No Dentice has been a member Dominic Frinzi: Lawyer for Milwaukee mafia Nick Fugarino: closely associates with LCN Ted Gagliano: Gambler Nick Gentile (Doesnt specify if its Nicola Gentile, the one who wrote a book): not a member, but associates with LCN Joseph Guarniere: not a member Dr. Vito Guardalabene: Son of former boss Pete; no living Guardalabene is a member of mafia Danny Lampone: No Lampones are made Tony LaRosa: associated with LCN, not member Sam Librizzi: Gambling LCN associate Tony and Tom Machi: gamblers John Mandella: not a member Vincent Mercurio: not a member John Percurio: creditor to Frank Balistrieri who he's related to Tom Piscitello: not a member John and Joe Piscuine: Gamblers; no Piscuine's have been members Bruno Ramazini: former operator of Holiday House Frank "Big foot Hogan" Sansone: gambler; runs a restaurant Joe Sardino: no other Sardino's are connected with LCN Tom Sorce: Gambler Frank Stelloh: Close to Frank Balistrieri and Steve DeSalvo; non Italian, so couldn't be made Nick Tarantino: "very close" and trusted by Frank Balistrieri; couldn't be made because he helped police in a burglary investigation, this was well known to LCN John Triliegi: LCN associate Sam Vermiglio: former head of a counterfeit cigarette stamp ring; deals drugs; murdered John Volpe: runs the Holiday house
-An informant, possibly Maniaci, advised in 1964 tht Frank Balistrieri has a share in William Covelli's gambling operation (CI doesnt say, but Covelli may have been made)
-Aforementioned informant said Balistrieri also has a share in John Rizzo's bookmaking operation. Al Albana is the one who brings the money from Rizzo and Covelli to Balistrieri
-Both Maniaci and another CI reported that Balistrieri, Rizzo, and Covelli thought about buting a Key Club in Park City, Illinois. Maniaci said that if Balistrieri was serious, he would have to talk to Chicago first since its their terretory
-On April 5, 1964 CI (aforementioned informant, probably not Maniaci) advised that he expected Buster Balestrere and Joe Gurera were expected to come back to Milwaukee before June of 1964. They are coming back to act as hosts in a big crap game. Nick Tarantino would be a treasurer in the game. Frank Balistrieri will own the game and Buster Balestrere will be pit boss and host. The reasoning for starting the game was it would make a lot of money and wouldn't violate a federal law.
-Sam Cefalu and Sam Librizzi run a gambling office recieving a line from out of state, this is the only out of state line. Sam Dentice is a runner for the operation. Anthony "Sheriff Cefalu" Cefalu used to be involved, but is inactive
-a CI advised that 70% of gamblers are represented by Dominic Frinzi. Frinzi has represented Anthony Cefalu, Charles Piscuine, Robert Pick, William Cole, Steve Halmo, and Harvey Wach
-A CI advised on March 7, 1964 members of "Chicago and Miami outfits" (maybe meaning Tampa) were trying to build a motel in the bahamas. Balistrieri was going to have a 5% interest in it
-A different CI advised that Giancana was interested in a casino at Cat Cay in the Bahamas.
-Ben Novac owned the Fountainbleu Hotel in Miami and was a close associate of Chicago and New York LCN. He applied for a license to operate a casino in the Bahamas in April of 1964 and was denied due to his financial ties to gangsters
-a CI (probably Maniaci) reported on April 3, 1964 that Balistrieri and former capodecina, but current soldier Joe Caminiti had a meeting where they discussed the Milwaukee Police Department (MPD). Balistrieri said he helped get cheif of police Harold Breter into office. Blaistrieri said he felt the MPD was trying to put heat on him by arresting young people who frequented Gallagher's restaurant and they surveilled LCN members. Balistrieri met with inspector Kremsreiter who was the number 3 man in the MPD. Kremsreiter and Balistrieri met at Fazio's and had lunch. At lunch, Balistrieri suggested that the MPD should stay away from his kind and that there are not enough police to be just focusing on him. Balistrieri told Caminiti that he was happy with how it went.
-Frank Ranney is a secretary-treasurer of Teamsters local 200 and is very close to Balistrieri even working together at Atomic Industries, a bubble gum company
-An informant advised on March 24, 1964 that Balistrieri, Frank Ranney, and Joe Caminiti met at Fazio's. The informant said Balistrieri had "some form of domination over Ranney"
-One CI stated that Balistrieri is connected to Jimmy Hoffa and could get a multi-million dollar loan to build a motel in Milwaukee.
-Tony Volpe is connected with Chicago and has access to the money from the welfare and pension fund of the teamster union in Chicago and that many Las Vegas casinos have been financed with the money.
-On April 3, 1964, a CI (or wiretap) reported that Joe Caminiti and Frank Balistrieri had a meeting where they discussed "the disposition of money supplied by the Teamsters to Frank Balistrieri for distribution to some of the candidates for Alderman in the City of Milwaukee." Caminiti told Balistrieri he'll advise the candidates that they are backed by the teamsters.
-During the same meeting Caminiti insuled Robert Kennedy saying he operated a gestapo. They also talked about a speech Congressman Alvin O'Konski gave talking good about Jimmy Hoffa. The Teamsters gave money to O'Konski and Senator Morse (ph) for political purposes
-Caminiti said Robert Kennedy infringes on civil liberties, this was after O'Konski told him about an investigation coming by the DOJ
-Caminiti also said that the Teamsters had trouble getting the poney to pay for Jimmy Hoffa's legal expenses. Out of 35 locals in Wisconsin, 20 wouldn't pass anything in support of paying. Because of this, they decided they would take the money out of the joint counsil, meaning every member will pay .05-.10 cents
-Joe Caminiti told Frank Balistrieri that Frank Ranney said to be careful giving money to Alderman Allen L. Calhoun. This was due to when Calhoun once moved districts, he came into conflict with Al Hass who was close to the Milwaukee LCN. Balistrieri already knew and met with Calhoun and told him that Hass is who they're most loyal too, but they will support whoever won. Balistrieri gave cash to Calhoun as an unreported donation
-Balistrieri gave a donation to Art Else, who's opponent was Henry Maier. Balistrieri gave Else the donation at Gallagher's restaurant.
-Angelo Provinzano was a member of the city service commission who was mobbed up. Balistrieri gave money to Provinzano who then donated money to mob backed candidates. Provinzano donated $995 to mayor Henry Maier. Provinzano also was used in the past to get Italians in positions in the city government and police department. Informant said Provinzano wasn't made
-On April 17, 1964, Dominic Frinzi (mob attorney) was going to run for governor and the mafia backed him. Frinzi himself wasn't confident he could win, but it would give him publicity which he could later use to become a judge
-Anthony Biernat was found buried in a cellar of an abandoned farm sprinkled with lime, but it wasn't the right kind which would disintegrate a body
-Frank Balistrieri partly owns The Pitch Specialty Co. Balistrieri's relative Peter Picciuro operated the business. His father John Picciuro also has a piece or co-owns it.
-Carl Dentice has a jukebox operation in his name for Frank Balistrieri
-Sam Dentice got a jukebox license under his name for Balistrieri
-Peter Sciotino's bakery was targeted in a bombing because of Balistrieri's shakedown campaign. Sciortino was personally connected to Joe Bonanno in some way and ended up not having to pay. Sciortino himself wasn't a LCN member
-Balistrieri's shakedown campaign began in the summer of 1962 with Joseph Gurera and Buster Balestrere shaking businessmen and gamblers down. Some people did resist so Balistrieri wanted to send a message. They were going to kill either Bill Cole or Bobby Pick, but when LE found out they stopped trying.
-An informant though Tony LaRosa might be killed because it was said the Milwaukee family heard he gave information to LE
-In may of 1964, an informant said that Steve DeSalvo and Frank Stelloh now operated as musclemen for Balistrieri. They even planned to murder someone who the informant didn't know.
-The informant thought the murder target may have been Izzy Tocco who was a booker for Sam Cefalu and got in trouble, but the informant thought that this would be too little a reason to murder someone
-A different informant supplied information suggesting the murder target may be Joe Beck. Beck was making complaints against the Continental Sales Co. Balistrieri made comments to the acting manager Gus Chiaverotti where he expressed his anger against Beck.
-An informant advised on April 10, 1964 that he heard a story about a Milwaukee gangster being offered $5,000 by the Chicago LCN "to make a hit" on a prominent businessman who was made. The reasoning was because the man owed the Chicago family between $18,000-$20,000. The man either stole the money or bet and lost the outfit's money
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History of the Milwaukee Outfit
-Al Capone was a camorrista and an associate of Masseria and Capone had a large scale gambling and bootlegging operation
-Joe Aiello would gamble at Capone's places, but when he would lose, he would have the gambling operation raided and Aiello's men would take much more money than was lost
-Capone was paying protection to Masseria
-A dispute arose between Masseria and Aiello and Masseria than brought Capone in and made him a capodecina and told Capone to kill Aiello
-In 1926 or 1927, there was a "Appalachian type meeting" (Generale assemblea?) in Pewaukee, Wisconsin. The meetings purpose was to make peace in Chicago, but other families attended
-Tough Tony Capesio was one of the shooters in the St. Valentine's day massacre
-Jack Zutta, a Jewish Aiello associate, was murdered by Capone's gang
-The Milwaukee mafia banned people from helping Aiello.
-Sam Aiello, Joe Caminiti, and Migele Mineo were former Aiello members who fled Chicago to join the Milwaukee family
-Sam Aiello wasn't sympathetic about his brother. Sam returned to Chicago later and was in Jim DiGeorge's crew
-Carl Caputa left Chicago and went to Madison where he became boss. Joe "Joe Pizza Pie" Aiello (unspecified relation to the Joe Capone wared with) went with Caputa to Madison
-Milwaukee didn't try to extort any gamblers until Sam Ferrara
-Al Capone was Neopolitan, the next boss was Tony Accardo who was "Thelast Sicilian to be an important boss," Accardo was succeeded by a Neopolotan Sam Giancana (Pretty sure this info is wrong)
-Chicago outfit was a "Money grabbing operation" where only a few leaders profit "at the expense of the general membership" this had an effect on Milwaukee
-Chicago took over Milwaukee in 1952
-Sam Ferrara wanted to have a piece of the Ogden social club which was a gambling place that Frank Balistrieri had a piece on and Balistieri was Son-In-Law to John Alioto. Balistrieri said no to Ferrara and then Ferrara shelved Balistrieri. Milwaukee then asked Chicago to help them with all the trouble.
-A general meeting was held in 1952; Tony Accardo, Rocco Fischetti, and Sam Giancana attended. Sam Ferrara was taken down as boss and replaced by John Alioto
-Alioto reinstated Balistrieri and made him a capodecina
-While Alioto was boss, no gamblers or businessmen were extorted
-John DiTrapani was a capodecina who didn't like Alioto, so he said he would spend $90,000 and even was willing to finance some murders
-One of DiTrapani's friends "Pasternak" lost a lot of money gambling with the outfit and DiTrapani made it known he was very upset
-Furthermore, Alioto heard about Ditrapani's plans to become boss and this sealed DiTrapani's fate
-Chicago were the ones who ordered DiTrapani's murder, not Alioto
-DiTrapani and Frank LaGalbo (a member and DiTrapani associate) were called to a meeting by the Chicago outfit. The meeting was going to be in Milwaukee though.
-LaGalbo warned DiTrapani not to go. LaGabo himself wasn't going to go.
-DiTrapani went anyway and on March 16, 1954 he was murdered. the following day he was found shot in his car
-LaGalbo was very well connected to Chicago and he set up a transfer where he would be in the Chicago family in the decina of Frank LaPorte
-LaPorte was centered in Chicago Heights
-Jack Enea was also apart of the faction that wanted Alioto taken down as boss. he wasn't killed until November, 1954 (Chicago authorized it)
-In January of 1962, Joe Alioto retired and Frank P. Balistrieri took over, Alioto was upset about this. Alioto apparently felt it should've gone to an older man
-furthermore, Alioto was upset that Balistrieri had an affair with his wife's cousin
-Balistrieri began shaking down gamblers and businessmen
-Balistrieri was collecting $500-$600 from Bruno Ramazini and John Volpe who ran the Holiday House
-Despite not collecting from Frank and Jimmy Fazio who ran restaurants, there was an incident where a bomb went off. After this, Balistrieri went to Florida and when he came back he said that they had a piece of Jimmy Fazio's place in Fort Lauderdale
-Balistrieri was not liked by older members because he never consulted with anyone before making decisions and Maniaci even said it would not surprise him if Balistrieri was murdered. Maniaci said if anyone were to kill Balistrieri, it would be the outfit
II. Organization and Leadership -The 1957 Apalachin meeting was due to Albert Anastasia taking forcible action which affected other bosses without telling them.
-Anastasia was killed due to the disappearance of two unnamed men
-John Alioto and Frank Balistrieri were going to go to Apalachin but didnt at the last moment. Also, attendance was not mandatory at Apalachin
-Maniaci didn't know too much about the commission or its structure, but he said it had around 7 members and though he doesn't know if there is a "boss of bosses," if anyone was it would be Giancana (clearly shows his midwest bias)
-Giancana had control over Madison, Rockford, and Springfield
-Balistrieri went to Chicago periodically for meetings with Giancana, Battaglia, or capodecina Felix "Milwaukee Phil" Alderisio. These meeting were at the underboss Sam Battaglia's farm
-occassionally, Balistrieri would meet with Alderisio, Battaglia, and Marshal Caifano in a Milwaukee hotel
-Ralph Capone of Mercer, Wisconsin isn't connected with Milwaukee or Chicago
-At one point, the Pfister hotel manager Marvin Billet made a deal and Kansas City member Sebastian "Buster" Balestrere (who was "imported" to Milwaukee along with Joseph Gurera for the purpose of shaking bookmakers and businessmen down) found out and this led to Balestrere having leverage over Billet. Eventually, the Fox Head Brewery bought a hotel in Jamiaca and Buster made Billet manager. Balistrieri asked Giancana if he wanted to "take over a large gambling casino in the hotel." Billet lost the managorial position and their plan didn't work.
-Balistrieri is involved in the Continental Music Company.
-The chicago outfit may have 500 members (this is wrong as they may not have had 100 at their peak, though it shows how the smaller families saw them)
-Sam Giancana is the boss, Sam "Teets" Battaglia is the underboss, and the following are capodecina: Felix Alderisio, Marshal Caifano, Frank LaPorte, Tony Maccalucci (ph), and Ross Prio
-Ross Prio is a north side leader who was originally in Jim DiGeorge's crew
-Maniaci heard complaints that people are upset in Chicago that only a few are making money. Also, they are upset that Sam Giancana "is too much of a playboy." CI also advised that John Cerone may be Giancana's successor. Cerone is very close to Tony Accardo
-Frank Balistrieri is related to former Kansas City boss James "Big Jim" Balistrieri (It appears his real last name was Balestrere, though his fathers last name was Balistrieri)
-Joseph Cusimano and Joe Jellosa (or Jealouso) are two Kansas City members who have visited Milwaukee in the past
-The Kansas City import Joseph Gurera was said to have killed two politicians (clearly referring to the infamous hit that left Charles Binaggio and Charles Gargotta dead)
-Balistrieri made Gurera a capodecina and Buster Balestrere worked under him. Both members went back to Kansas City in 1963 after pressure was put on Milwaukee for Anthony Biernat's murder
-On April 18, 1964 Peter Balistrieri's (Frank's brother) daughter married Leonard Drewek, a non-Italian. John Molle, Buster Balestrere, and Jim Balestrere (Not made) all went to the wedding
-Peter Balistrieri is a capodecina
-Rockford's boss is Joseph Zummutto, the underboss is Frank Bucemi, and the consigliere is Joseph Zitto. (FNU) Caltegerone is a member who's old and used to be close to Milwaukee capodecina Pasquale Migliaccio. Caltergerone may be a reference to Carl "Charlie Vince" Caltegerone
-Madison, Wisconsin has 10-15 members. The boss is Carl Caputo and Joseph "Joe Pizza Pie" Aiello is a member. Both are wealthy with real estate investments.
-Benny DeSalvo was a capodecina in Madison, but died in February of 1964 at 84 years old. He was buried in Chicago
-The following is the boss succession of Milwaukee: Vito Guardalabene (Nicola Gentile reported Joseph Vallone was the underboss in 1915) Peter Guardalabene (Son of Vito) Joseph "Big Joe" Amato Joseph Vallone (Boss from mid 1920's-mid 1930's) Joseph Gumina was the underboss to Vallone (also says Gumina was capodecina, maybe he controlled a crew along with being consigliere) Charles Zarcone was the consigliere Pasquale Migliaccio was a capodecina Migele Mineo was a capodecina Tom Lucua (ph) was a capodecina Sam Ferrara (Mid 1930's-1952) Joe Gumina was the underboss (again lists him as capo too) Charles Zarcone is listed as consigliere Pasquale Migliaccio was a capodecina Migele Mineo was a capodecina Joseph Caminiti is also a captain (may have been captain under Vallone as well) John Alioto (1952-1962) Joe Gumina was the underboss (again lists him as capo too) Migele Mineo was a capodecina John DiTrapani was a capodecina until his murder in 1954 Pasquale Migliaccio was a capodecina Frank Balistrieri was a capodecina as well Frank Balistrieri (1962-time document was typed) appears he had no underboss Charles Zarcone would be consigliere if Balistrieri had one, Maniaci doesn't know if he actually was though John Alioto was a capodecina and had the older members in his crew Peter Balistrieri was a capodecina "who has active members under his direction" -Older members are displeased with Balistrieri for not consulting any members and making Joseph Gurera (Kansas City) a capodecina instead of a local member
-Older members blame Balistrieri for the publicity LCN is getting due to Anthony Biernat's murder also there's resentment because no one is making money
-Maniaci said he wouldn't be surprised if they killed Balistrieri one day
-On January 4th, 14th, and the 31st Balistrieri held parties at Gallagher's restaurant in an attempt to get the opposite faction to like him. He planned to have another similar meeting a month later. He also assured the members that jobs would soon open up and he gave Vito Aiello, John Aiello, and Maniaci himself jobs at gambling places.
-Balistrieri is very cautious in regards to his personal movements
-Another CI reported the meeting at Gallagher's was to fix the bad feelings between Myron Jennaro and Paul Bogosian who are both associates of the Milwaukee family
-the following is the structure according to Maniaci: capo: boss sottocapo: Italian not Sicilian term for underboss "consuleri": (see previous comment about spelling) the consigliere is the counselor who is usually an older member capodecina: heads a crew, means "head of ten", but members sometimes have 50 members in their crew (or in some cases zero members) No mention of soldiers
-the following are popular terms used by members: Amico Nostro: friend of ours; used by fellow members to indicate someones a member avugad: means lawyer, Maniaci said there's no significance as a term in Milwaukee, but it probably was just not for low level members. Normally the avugad is a representative on the commission. for example, Milwaukee's avugad would've been Chicago's boss cumpare: means godfather; used to show closeness to someone don: Italian term of respect, not a mafia term onorata: means honor, Maniaci said he's never heard the mafia called onorata society which many sources have reported omerta: Maniaci said it's to express any qualities in the word "manly" sagia: "chair, committee of boss, underboss, consuleri [sic], and capodecina [sic] Tourna: general meeting where all members attend; for an important reason
-the following are members of Milwaukee identified by Maniaci: John Aiello: made under Ferrara Vito Aiello: Made under Ferrara John Alioto: Made under Guardalabene, was boss then capodecina Albert Albana: Suspect in Biernat's murder and was made a month after in January 1963 Mike Albano: Runs Angelo's Pizzaria, long time member
III. Membership -John Alioto did not make any members, but Vallone, Ferrara, and Balistrieri did. (which must've happened when the books were closed either suggesting the midwest didn't follow this or he did it on the sly)
-To be made originally, you had to be Sicilian, but they switched it to just be full Italian
-Members don't have to kill, but this has been a rule in the past, to be made
-Associates are proposed by a made member who knows the associates potential. In the past, the name would go around to all members and if they objected, he couldn't be made
-the associate could cooperate with law enforcement to be made
-in the past, all members had to be present at the initiation ceremonies (Maniaci calls them "tourna" meaning a general membership meeting). They no longer do that though
-The Biernat murderers were alleged to be Steve DeSalvo, Dominic Principe, and Albert Albana. DeSalvo contacted Biernat before the killing
-during the making ceremony, both the proposed member and his sponser's fingers are pricked and their blood is mixed. Then everyone present joins hands and a picture of a saint is burned (presumably in the proposed members hand) and the proposed member takes an oath in Italian to put the organization over everything including family and religion
-Members must obey all orders under threat of death
-No members can deal drugs or they will be killed
-Members need permission before engaging in something that may affect another member
-In the past disputes between members were taken before the "Sagia" (This is also called the Seggia, consiglio, or the Sicilian term consignu)
-The "Sagia'' was composed of a boss, underboss, "consuleri", and the capodecina (the term "consuleri" suggests multiple consigliere, but the document has used the singular and plural terms interchangeably. traditionally, the consiglio had multiple consigliere though. Also "capodecina" suggests one captain, which wouldn't really make sense in the context so it can be assumed they mean all capidecina in the family)
-Balistrieri no longer consults anyone except Chicago and only for big issues
-Maniaci named the following as members of the LCN family in Milwaukee (these are just from memory): John Aiello: Made under Ferrara Vito Aiello: Made under Ferrara; John Aiello's brother John Alioto: Made under Vito Guardalabene; capodecina Albert Albana: Made in early 1964, after the murder of Anthony Biernat Mike Albano: Runs Angelo's Pizzaria; long time member Tony Albano: Mike's uncle; retired Frank Balistrieri: boss; made with John DiTrapani; in Joe Ferrara's crew?; Made capodecina under John Alioto Joseph Balistrieri: Frank's dad; longtime member Peter Balistrieri: Frank's brother; capodecina Joseph Caminiti: Secretary treasurer of Local 257; made in Chicago under Joe Aiello; came to Milwaukee during Aiello-Capone war; bootlegger during prohibition; capodeinca under Vallone and Ferrara; Balistrieri's closest confidant even closer to Frank than Peter; Married to John Alioto's daughter Harry DeAngelo: Ferrara didn't like him; made in 1963; works sanitation or garbage department; 55 years old Carl Di Maggio: long time soldier Salvatore DiMaggio: Carlo's son; burglar eith extesnive record; made under Ferrara Benny DeSalvo: Made in 1963; nephew of old Madison boss Benny DeSalvo who died in 1964; lived in New York for a while but moved back to Milwaukee and went into construction Steve DeSalvo: Close to Balistrieri; primary suspect in Biernat murder; made one month after the murder Sam Ferrara: former boss; operates liquor store; inactive Joseph Gumina; underboss and capodecina under Vallone, Ferrara, and Alioto; he was a boxer after coming to America; bootlegger and then worked at A.O. Smith corp.; capable of murder; his son married Ferrara's daughter August Maniaci: Long time soldier Santo Marino: Brother-in-law to Ferrara; not active; operates tevern Migele "Mike" Mineo: Made in chicago; came to Milwaukee during Aiello-Capone war; capodecina under Vallone, Ferrara, and Alioto; employed by Schlitz Brewery John Pernice: former bootlegger; unemployed; not known to hold leadership position Dominic Principe: Another Biernat murder suspect; made following murder; lives in Illinois Joe Rizzo: inactive; worked as bartender in multiple places Vito Seidita: inactive; 55 years old; works for city of Milwaukee, maybe in street department Joseph Spero: inactive; works for city of Milwaukee, maybe in garbage department Charles Zarcone: consigliere during Vallone, Ferrara, and Alioto; may be consigliere under Balistrieri, but Maniaci doesnt know
Maniaci also listed the following as members affiliated with other families that live in Milwaukee: Frank LaGalbo: runs Chico's restaurant; was supposed to be killed along with DiTrapani; transfered to Chicago under Frank LaPorte John DiBella: member from Italy; close to Joe Bonanno; head of Grande Cheese Company Ralph "bottles" Capone: Chicago member; no importance in the underworld James DiGeorge: operates stock farm; owns land in Adams county, Wisconsin; former capodecina of North Chicago; years ago he was supposed to be killed, but got a pass; lives in exile in Wisconsin (likely shelved)
-Maniaci said that even your immidiate family may not know your made and it's typical for people to keep their sons out of the mafia
Maniaci named the following as people not members of Milwaukee, but closely associated with Milwaukee: Walter "Walter Blackie" Brocca: worked forvarious businesses on behalf of Frank Balistrieri Tony Bruno: No member of Bruno's family has ever been a member Sam Cefalu: gambler; lives at 1606 North Jackson; employed by Balistrieri Sam Cefalu: lives at 3461 North Cramer; not related to the other Sam Cefalu; worked for Balistrieri in a gambling office Anthony "Sheriff Cefalu" Cefalu: Brother of Sam (doesnt say which one); employed as gambler Gus Chiaverotti: Working for Frank Balistrieri in Continental Music Co.; closely associates with Balistrieri Sam DaQuista: No other DaQuista family member has been connected Joe Dentice: No Dentice has been a member Dominic Frinzi: Lawyer for Milwaukee mafia Nick Fugarino: closely associates with LCN Ted Gagliano: Gambler Nick Gentile (Doesnt specify if its Nicola Gentile, the one who wrote a book): not a member, but associates with LCN Joseph Guarniere: not a member Dr. Vito Guardalabene: Son of former boss Pete; no living Guardalabene is a member of mafia Danny Lampone: No Lampones are made Tony LaRosa: associated with LCN, not member Sam Librizzi: Gambling LCN associate Tony and Tom Machi: gamblers John Mandella: not a member Vincent Mercurio: not a member John Percurio: creditor to Frank Balistrieri who he's related to Tom Piscitello: not a member John and Joe Piscuine: Gamblers; no Piscuine's have been members Bruno Ramazini: former operator of Holiday House Frank "Big foot Hogan" Sansone: gambler; runs a restaurant Joe Sardino: no other Sardino's are connected with LCN Tom Sorce: Gambler Frank Stelloh: Close to Frank Balistrieri and Steve DeSalvo; non Italian, so couldn't be made Nick Tarantino: "very close" and trusted by Frank Balistrieri; couldn't be made because he helped police in a burglary investigation, this was well known to LCN John Triliegi: LCN associate Sam Vermiglio: former head of a counterfeit cigarette stamp ring; deals drugs; murdered John Volpe: runs the Holiday house
-An informant, possibly Maniaci, advised in 1964 tht Frank Balistrieri has a share in William Covelli's gambling operation (CI doesnt say, but Covelli may have been made)
-Aforementioned informant said Balistrieri also has a share in John Rizzo's bookmaking operation. Al Albana is the one who brings the money from Rizzo and Covelli to Balistrieri
-Both Maniaci and another CI reported that Balistrieri, Rizzo, and Covelli thought about buting a Key Club in Park City, Illinois. Maniaci said that if Balistrieri was serious, he would have to talk to Chicago first since its their terretory
-On April 5, 1964 CI (aforementioned informant, probably not Maniaci) advised that he expected Buster Balestrere and Joe Gurera were expected to come back to Milwaukee before June of 1964. They are coming back to act as hosts in a big crap game. Nick Tarantino would be a treasurer in the game. Frank Balistrieri will own the game and Buster Balestrere will be pit boss and host. The reasoning for starting the game was it would make a lot of money and wouldn't violate a federal law.
-Sam Cefalu and Sam Librizzi run a gambling office recieving a line from out of state, this is the only out of state line. Sam Dentice is a runner for the operation. Anthony "Sheriff Cefalu" Cefalu used to be involved, but is inactive
-a CI advised that 70% of gamblers are represented by Dominic Frinzi. Frinzi has represented Anthony Cefalu, Charles Piscuine, Robert Pick, William Cole, Steve Halmo, and Harvey Wach
-A CI advised on March 7, 1964 members of "Chicago and Miami outfits" (maybe meaning Tampa) were trying to build a motel in the bahamas. Balistrieri was going to have a 5% interest in it
-A different CI advised that Giancana was interested in a casino at Cat Cay in the Bahamas.
-Ben Novac owned the Fountainbleu Hotel in Miami and was a close associate of Chicago and New York LCN. He applied for a license to operate a casino in the Bahamas in April of 1964 and was denied due to his financial ties to gangsters
-a CI (probably Maniaci) reported on April 3, 1964 that Balistrieri and former capodecina, but current soldier Joe Caminiti had a meeting where they discussed the Milwaukee Police Department (MPD). Balistrieri said he helped get cheif of police Harold Breter into office. Blaistrieri said he felt the MPD was trying to put heat on him by arresting young people who frequented Gallagher's restaurant and they surveilled LCN members. Balistrieri met with inspector Kremsreiter who was the number 3 man in the MPD. Kremsreiter and Balistrieri met at Fazio's and had lunch. At lunch, Balistrieri suggested that the MPD should stay away from his kind and that there are not enough police to be just focusing on him. Balistrieri told Caminiti that he was happy with how it went.
-Frank Ranney is a secretary-treasurer of Teamsters local 200 and is very close to Balistrieri even working together at Atomic Industries, a bubble gum company
-An informant advised on March 24, 1964 that Balistrieri, Frank Ranney, and Joe Caminiti met at Fazio's. The informant said Balistrieri had "some form of domination over Ranney"
-One CI stated that Balistrieri is connected to Jimmy Hoffa and could get a multi-million dollar loan to build a motel in Milwaukee.
-Tony Volpe is connected with Chicago and has access to the money from the welfare and pension fund of the teamster union in Chicago and that many Las Vegas casinos have been financed with the money.
-On April 3, 1964, a CI (or wiretap) reported that Joe Caminiti and Frank Balistrieri had a meeting where they discussed "the disposition of money supplied by the Teamsters to Frank Balistrieri for distribution to some of the candidates for Alderman in the City of Milwaukee." Caminiti told Balistrieri he'll advise the candidates that they are backed by the teamsters.
-During the same meeting Caminiti insuled Robert Kennedy saying he operated a gestapo. They also talked about a speech Congressman Alvin O'Konski gave talking good about Jimmy Hoffa. The Teamsters gave money to O'Konski and Senator Morse (ph) for political purposes
-Caminiti said Robert Kennedy infringes on civil liberties, this was after O'Konski told him about an investigation coming by the DOJ
-Caminiti also said that the Teamsters had trouble getting the poney to pay for Jimmy Hoffa's legal expenses. Out of 35 locals in Wisconsin, 20 wouldn't pass anything in support of paying. Because of this, they decided they would take the money out of the joint counsil, meaning every member will pay .05-.10 cents
-Joe Caminiti told Frank Balistrieri that Frank Ranney said to be careful giving money to Alderman Allen L. Calhoun. This was due to when Calhoun once moved districts, he came into conflict with Al Hass who was close to the Milwaukee LCN. Balistrieri already knew and met with Calhoun and told him that Hass is who they're most loyal too, but they will support whoever won. Balistrieri gave cash to Calhoun as an unreported donation
-Balistrieri gave a donation to Art Else, who's opponent was Henry Maier. Balistrieri gave Else the donation at Gallagher's restaurant.
-Angelo Provinzano was a member of the city service commission who was mobbed up. Balistrieri gave money to Provinzano who then donated money to mob backed candidates. Provinzano donated $995 to mayor Henry Maier. Provinzano also was used in the past to get Italians in positions in the city government and police department. Informant said Provinzano wasn't made
-On April 17, 1964, Dominic Frinzi (mob attorney) was going to run for governor and the mafia backed him. Frinzi himself wasn't confident he could win, but it would give him publicity which he could later use to become a judge
-Anthony Biernat was found buried in a cellar of an abandoned farm sprinkled with lime, but it wasn't the right kind which would disintegrate a body
-Frank Balistrieri partly owns The Pitch Specialty Co. Balistrieri's relative Peter Picciuro operated the business. His father John Picciuro also has a piece or co-owns it.
-Carl Dentice has a jukebox operation in his name for Frank Balistrieri
-Sam Dentice got a jukebox license under his name for Balistrieri
-Peter Sciotino's bakery was targeted in a bombing because of Balistrieri's shakedown campaign. Sciortino was personally connected to Joe Bonanno in some way and ended up not having to pay. Sciortino himself wasn't a LCN member
-Balistrieri's shakedown campaign began in the summer of 1962 with Joseph Gurera and Buster Balestrere shaking businessmen and gamblers down. Some people did resist so Balistrieri wanted to send a message. They were going to kill either Bill Cole or Bobby Pick, but when LE found out they stopped trying.
-An informant though Tony LaRosa might be killed because it was said the Milwaukee family heard he gave information to LE
-In may of 1964, an informant said that Steve DeSalvo and Frank Stelloh now operated as musclemen for Balistrieri. They even planned to murder someone who the informant didn't know.
-The informant thought the murder target may have been Izzy Tocco who was a booker for Sam Cefalu and got in trouble, but the informant thought that this would be too little a reason to murder someone
-A different informant supplied information suggesting the murder target may be Joe Beck. Beck was making complaints against the Continental Sales Co. Balistrieri made comments to the acting manager Gus Chiaverotti where he expressed his anger against Beck.
-An informant advised on April 10, 1964 that he heard a story about a Milwaukee gangster being offered $5,000 by the Chicago LCN "to make a hit" on a prominent businessman who was made. The reasoning was because the man owed the Chicago family between $18,000-$20,000. The man either stole the money or bet and lost the outfit's money
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Also includes NF scope rings - discontinued but I think were around $150
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Aimpoint CompM5 + ADM mount + front flip-up ARD + rear flip cap. Mount has been used, but optic itself is unused.
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Selling for $850 shipped + insured
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10% discount for local pickup + cash if you come meet me in southern CT.
Also includes NF scope rings - discontinued but I think were around $150
Also includes SME bubble level
Selling for $3000 shipped + insured
It wasn't going to fit where I planned to put it. About $1100 + tax of stuff new.
Selling for $850 shipped + insured
Selling for $1600 shipped + insured
I'm not exactly on top on the used market for these things, so if you want to buy but think a price is unreasonable, send me some comparable recent listings that went for less and I'll be flexible.