Hi Everyone, First I just want to say really sorry if this breaches any of the terms and conditions of the subreddit regarding advertising but I wanted to spread the word about our new electrolysis hair removal service that caters specifically to the gender diverse community.
Our business is owned and operated by transgender women and aims to provide the highest quality of treatment and aftercare services in an industry that is heavily profit driven and often predatory. We wanted to create a service that treats permanent hair removal as an important medical procedure and valid gender affirming care that should be held to the same standard as any other medical procedure.
To this effect, Live More: Ethical Beauty has rooms in medical centres in 3 Locations, NoR, SoR and Centrally. Across these locations we take bookings 7 days a week, 8am til 6pm.
What we Offer;
Comprehensive patient education on the procedures and open communication to reduce undertreatment. Our service is customizable to your preference, we aim to work with you to ensure you are satisfied. We carry specialised equipment and are able to treat all hair types and skin tones as we offer all three treatment techniques, Galvanic Diathermy/Thermoflash and Blend. We believe it is important you understand what treatment you are receiving and why, as well as having your say.
Treatment of all areas including GAS. We are happy to treat all areas including those seeking hair removal from the genital region in anticipation of Gender Affirming Surgery / Sexual Reassignment Surgery. Please be aware this service can only be offered to those over the age of 18. We also offer brow and beard sculpting and treatment for areas often missed in laser therapy, such as toes!
Discounts for Gender Affirming Care. We are of course happy to treat all patients but offer specific discounts for those seeking gender affirming care. Transition is hard enough without being taken advantage of by greedy franchises.
Discounts and special deals for low-income. For those on a Healthcare card, we offer a number of payment options in the form of payment plans or treat now - pay later, at heavily discounted rates. We believe issues with self image can often be a barrier to confidence and financial success and we would like to do our part to help with that. We want you treated and happy, so please email us at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) to discuss your specific needs.
Online Bookings and Cancellations. Making an appointment with us is done easily through our website booking system. This is intended to provide a convenient service that minimises human interaction as we see this as a potential barrier to patients seeking care. Bookings can be cancelled anytime from the online platform also and are fully refundable. There are no fees and no hard feelings for cancelling a session even minutes before it is due to start, as we understand life happens and sometimes appointments can’t be made. Just remember to cancel the booking before it starts to qualify for the refund!
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We don’t upsell. Being owned and operated by transwomen, we have had countless unpleasant experiences with salons and laser clinics attempting to upsell essential creams and oils and $100 ‘must have special sunscreens’ that have not been shown empirically to be any better than standard products. Or pressured into treating more areas, or into signing up for non-refundable package deals that keep you locked in to a service you're no longer happy with. Or intentionally undertreated to prolong the number of sessions. We do not want this! The bookings made through our booking portal and the price quoted is the price you will pay, no surprises! We want you feeling safe and comfortable.
3 Locations,
Our SoR rooms can be found at Ellen Health Medical Centre in Fremantle. This is a well known Hub for transgender medicine. The rooms are quiet, private and wheelchair accessible. The facility offers 2 hours free parking.
Our NoR service is temporarily displaced to East Perth Medical Centre due to recent weather damage to the practice. This is a busy, fully staffed multipurpose comprehensive health centre. It offers 1 hour free parking. The new location will be updated in the coming weeks.
We also offer private booking for treatment sessions in Como. This is intended as a fully discrete service from a private residence as we appreciate some patients are uncomfortable or anxious seeking treatment in public places. This location offers one to one treatment with the electrologist and has no limit to parking. Bookings cannot be found on the online portal but can be quickly arranged by contacting us through email.
Free additional services include
Video Streaming entertainment in the chair - Electrolysis is a long, often uncomfortable and sometimes boring process. Our treatment beds are fitted to provide access to common streaming services such to provide entertainment during the procedure. After all they do say distraction is the best analgesia!
After-care service - Although always provide detailed advice regarding caring for the treated areas, we appreciate many may worry about the progress of their wound healing. It is not uncommon for people to be concerned with what is otherwise a normal healing progress - or worse fail to recognise an infection that needs treatment. For this reason we offer a service that reviews your treated area, either in clinic or submitting a picture via email so that it may be reviewed by our medically trained staff.
Transition photos - We appreciate some patients enjoy documenting their progress through transition. It is after all a very exciting time. But few of us have the good habits and discipline to keep a regular record. For this reason we offer a photo taking service. As Electrolysis requires regular treatments over an extended period of time, it is a great way to keep track of not only the efficacy of your treatments, but your transition as well!
A service by transfolk, for transfolk - We want you feeling safe and comfortable and among friends, we are on a journey similar to yourself and appreciate transition for the practical and emotionally complex journey that it is. Our staff are comfortable talking about all things transgender. If you want to seek new information or resources in the community, or vent your frustrations or even practice your vocal training in a little sing along, please don’t be afraid to ask! We are all in this together and we need to look after each other <3.
Thankyou for your time, if you have any questions or concerns please either shoot us a DM here or send an Email to [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]).
We look forward to seeing you in clinic!
Warmest regards in this terrible terrible weather!
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Hey guys. I'm a newbie to this sub and to the game. Started playing two days ago and I got hooked to be honest. Unfortunately, it was hard to progress because I die every five minutes. Either some Raptor would invade my territory or some stupid Carnotaurus would ambush me while I hunt for some dodo.
It was frustrating.
Anyway, I decided to just go to this island, that according to a stranger in the internet, is safe. No pesky Dilos spawn there. Only peaceful dinosaurs. Problem is, I found where the island is and I swam towards it. It was stupid of me to jump into the ocean without thinking about it.
I wasn't halfway when I got attacked and died. I did it thrice. And now, I camped on the beach and built raft. And yes, it was a long process because I had to watch out for the Spinosaur at the opposite side of the river.
And now I am afraid of using the raft to cross the ocean because something might attack me and all my hardwork is there.
So...will something try to destroy my raft in the ocean? Can I become a pirate?

**TL;DR; : Had a relationship with a girl last year that ended, but I still want her back. Thinking about asking her out when the school year ends. Advice?
Long Story To try and give a basic summary while including details, last year in April of 2022 I went on a school trip to a European country and had a crush on a girl that was going on the trip. I talked to her a little bit in the beginning, but it was a lot of small talk stuff. Then in the last 4 days of the trip we really hit it off in a huge way. We started spending down time together at the hotel and throughout the cities we were visiting. We explored the hotels together and walked around the small towns we were staying in. It was like a dream come true, I couldn't believe she wanted to spend time with me. Then on the very last day of the trip everyone got random seat selections on the 6 hour plane ride back to the United States east coast, and I managed to get a seat right next to her! I am a big Beatles fan and we watched the movie, "Yesterday" together and then listed to some Beatles music with my Airpods and we cuddled and she put her head on my shoulder.
When we got back home she acted a little odd to me for a few days, but then we started talking to each other again, even more seriously. After about 2 weeks we hung out and she came up with the idea to go see a movie, so we did. In the movie we cuddled and ended up making out, both of our first kiss. Then we went to get ice cream after, and finally I dropped her off at one of her friends house. It was an amazing day. We continued to talk at school everyday and facetime at night until 1 day, about 2 weeks later. I called her in the afternoon on a Friday after school to ask if she wanted to do something this weekend, but she basically broke up with me on the phone. I was completely caught by surprise by this, I still have no idea why it happened. Sometimes people say they have no clue what they may have done to cause the relationship to come to an end, but I truly have absolutely no idea what happened to cause this.I haven't talked to her much since that day. Only little stuff messaging about an AP class that we're both in, but I don't talk to her in that class.
This whole break up happened just barely over a year ago now, and I still really want her back. I have tried going for other girls, but all I do is compare them to her and nobody is enough.
My school year ends in about 2.5 weeks and I was thinking about asking her to go get ice cream at a local place and try and make friends back with her again and see what I can do. One of her friends also told me that she heard that the girl I like would be interested in having a relationship with someone during the summer because she would be less busy with school and such.
Any advice on what I could do to try and get her back? I think there is a possibility that she may be interested in me if I play my cards right. My main idea right now is to ask her to go to ice cream and then take her for a ride on my parents boat on the lake we live on, afterwards.
(Hopefully she doesn't see this or that would be so fucking embarrassing)
Thanks, I'll take any ideas you have.

I'm a single 45 year old man near the middle of nowhere. Not into finding a life partner, but it would be nice to have a long distance girlfriend I could look forward to hopping on Discord once every week or two, play some online games (be it Steam or Board Game Arena), and talk about life in general. Maybe it could lead to meeting in person regularly for an intimate rendezvous?
As I mentioned, not looking for anything serious. Just wanting a woman to become a friend with online. Joke around, tease, and flirt with each other. If it leads to anything sexual happening in person, I'm more interested in that being some casual fun we get to have with each other with no expectations. Be it if our meet-ups are only happen once a year or so.
As far as myself, I've been divorced for almost 20 years now, never remarried. I tried another serious relationship about 10 years ago, but that crashed and burned.
My youngest son is 21 years old, and oldest stepson is 30. They both live about 4 hours away from me, so don't get to see them a whole lot. :(
Appearance wise, I'm a white male a little on the heavier side. Pretty generic looking I think.
Personality wise, I'm a gaming nerd with a love for board games, and the occasional video game. I also got back into anime the past couple of years, and do a lot of reading. I find it difficult to interact with new people, so my friend circle is a little small. One reason I like board games, gives me a way to interact with new people. My politics lean liberal, and I'm non-religious.

Long time lurker, first time poster! After typing this out for a different sub I thought, wow I mentioned MIL TOOOO many times for this to not be a post about her and not in this sub lol. I'm having trouble finding the vocabulary to tell off my MIL in a respectful way for her meddling and gossiping! My husband is sick of me talking about this and I would truly love and appreciate an outside perspective because I feel like I'm losing my mind.
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When my (34f) husband (35m) first got together, his mom did not like me. Early on I had met my SIL once and it seemed like we'd get along great, but by the next time I saw her, I would receive the cold-shoulder that has managed to last the last 11yrs. Eventually I ended up reconciling with my MIL, by this time my husband and I have been together for ~4yrs. Her and I aired everything out between us, and discovered during this time that the reason why my MIL and SIL didn't like me was because my husband was ranting/complaining about me and our issues within our relationship - to his mother, who would then go back and tell SIL. So they weren't getting a good image of me. He said I was nagging him, pushy, and confrontational. But not without reason of course!
I do want to touch on these issues a bit because they could come across ambiguous: we were 24 and 26 when bf and I got together. There was infidelity on his part and times when I held him accountable for his actions and behaviors. He didn't like this and would go back and whine to his mom about it. Before you jump down my throat - yes, he has learned through extensive couples/individual therapy that sharing with his mother like this was NOT ok, and does not do this anymore. In his defense, he didn't have boundaries with his mother, and thought he could trust her to give good advice, and to not put his business on front street!
We're great now relationship-wise. We were young when we got together, but we've gone on to build a terrific life together.
Anyway.
MIL begins to gently push us to reconcile with SIL. This started up soon after MIL and I made up, and I wanted to make the effort for my husband and his mom. To show that I was trying to 'be apart of the family.' I was apprehensive at first but she said it was important to her, and she didn't like her kids fighting. At the time I wanted very much for MIL to like me, to accept me and I felt like I was responsible for it somehow, so I gave in.
For a period of about 18mos we tried time after time to make up with SIL, I sent her messages on social media and never got a response. Relayed messages through MIL to her. My husband asked her for all of us to sit down and work out our issues, and got no response.Whenever I saw her, I was met with complete indifference. She would go out of her way to ignore me, act as if I didn't exist, wouldn't even look me in the eye or acknowledge me. Many of my efforts were shut down in front of their family members and my SIL would tell them - in front of me - that she didn't like me.
It was rude and embarrassing. I want to be super clear about this part - at this point, I had no expectations of having a real relationship with SIL. My personal opinion of it all was that we didn't have to like each other, or even talk much but that we'd have some sort of mutual respect for each other, and not treat me the way she does. I felt we should have been able to just say "hello" and keep it moving!! Literally, that's it.
I asked MIL whhyyyy she thought SIL was so resistant to making up and she looked at me and said: "Don't worry about it honey, she's a bigot anyway." My boyfriends family is white. I am black & Filipino. By all accounts, I present black, but have defining Asian features. I'm not sure why my MIL would tell me this unless it was a gentle way of telling me SIL didn't like me because of the color of my skin. My husband also confirmed this bit of information as well.
After some time, husband and I decide that we've made our effort, said our peace - its not us, it was her. We made the effort, and she didn't want that so we respected it and backed off. We let MIL know that we tried, but the ball was in her court and it was now up to her if she wanted any sort of relationship with us. My boyfriend said that we "wouldn't close the door" if she wanted to reach out at anytime.
But I did close the door. All this time later, I don't want anything to do with her.
I had time during those 18mo of basically groveling, to realize that I didn't even have anything to apologize for. I racked my brain for a million hours trying to figure out what I did. I never spoke to her after I saw her the first time, so what did I do wrong? She heard about (one sided) problems in my relationship and chose to hate me for that? Why was my MIL so insistent on ME apologizing?
Boyfriend and I decide to move away, out of state. A couple years later at the top of 2021, my boyfriend turns into a fiance, to a husband, to a dad and I get pregnant! I gave birth to our precious baby in September. Throughout my pregnancy MIL started to insist again on me and husband to reach out to SIL. This is put made me put MIL on ice kinda because she knows what we went through and she repeatedly asks us to make up with her. We got shut down and we accepted it. We told her we would no longer be extending any olive branch to her.
She will not stop bringing up SIL, ATP I'm not sure how to say it nicely anymore, me or my husband. I strongly believe that it's because SIL wants to meet our baby. MIL said in passing during a visist that SIL has the right to meet her nephew and if she had to apologize to do it, she would. Ohhhh so you wouldn't apologize before, but now that we have a baby and you feel left out....we should accommodate you? Because you've been SO accommodating to me.
SIL had been notified by family members of us getting engaged, married and now having a baby and she never once made an effort to extend HER olive branch to make up, and we're supposed to reach out to her?! NO!
I'm sorry, if you aren't cool with US, the parents of the child at the very least, why do you think you can see our baby? Because you're my husbands sister? She isn't anymore an aunt to my child than she is a sister to my husband. Someone whom she only reaches out to when SHE wants something. SIL has shown time and time again that she doesn't like me, doesn't respect me, and doesn't respect her brother.
And, for the cherry on top - why would I let a BIGOT even touch my child?! Why would I want me and my child, (both brown people) anywhere near near someone like her!? I really feel like they're playing in my face!!
My MIL wants us to stay with her at her house, shes being overly generous by offering her house and her car to us so we don't have to spend any money and only pay for our flights. She is so insistent on this, reminding us every time we talk that "we'll stay with her, right?" Money is not an issue, and because of how busy my husband is at work this will be our first visit home/vacation since the pandemic so "spending money" is no big deal if it means we're comfortable and have a good time. She also brings up SIL every call as well. Stop trying to make her happen! Its not going to happen.
Its all so triggering and frustrating, even in writing this my MIL is so involved as well and it freaks me out! Even my own mother is not this invested. I suspect that MIL feels guilty for painting me in a bad light to SIL so she's trying to force a reconciliation between us, but in doing so and trying to justify SIL's behavior has painted SIL in a bad light to me, completing the circle.
I feel like shes doing it again, I'm not even sure if she knows she's doing it or not.
I guess my question is:
Should I stand my ground about SIL not meeting my baby and stipulating that she needs to create a relationship with US the parents? How can I be firm and respectful (do I at this point??) and get my point across? Am I being difficult if I don't want to accept SIL's fake, half assed apology? If my husband wants a relationship with them, that's fine, that's his family, but I'd just realllllly like to be left alone to raise my baby with my husband in peace, and with literally NO interference from his mom/family.

Long Story To try and give a basic summary while including details, last year in April of 2022 I went on a school trip to a European country and had a crush on a girl that was going on the trip. I talked to her a little bit in the beginning, but it was a lot of small talk stuff. Then in the last 4 days of the trip we really hit it off in a huge way. We started spending down time together at the hotel and throughout the cities we were visiting. We explored the hotels together and walked around the small towns we were staying in. It was like a dream come true, I couldn't believe she wanted to spend time with me. Then on the very last day of the trip everyone got random seat selections on the 6 hour plane ride back to the United States east coast, and I managed to get a seat right next to her! I am a big Beatles fan and we watched the movie, "Yesterday" together and then listed to some Beatles music with my Airpods and we cuddled and she put her head on my shoulder.
When we got back home she acted a little odd to me for a few days, but then we started talking to each other again, even more seriously. After about 2 weeks we hung out and she came up with the idea to go see a movie, so we did. In the movie we cuddled and ended up making out, both of our first kiss. Then we went to get ice cream after, and finally I dropped her off at one of her friends house. It was an amazing day. We continued to talk at school everyday and facetime at night until 1 day, about 2 weeks later. I called her in the afternoon on a Friday after school to ask if she wanted to do something this weekend, but she basically broke up with me on the phone. I was completely caught by surprise by this, I still have no idea why it happened. Sometimes people say they have no clue what they may have done to cause the relationship to come to an end, but I truly have absolutely no idea what happened to cause this.I haven't talked to her much since that day. Only little stuff messaging about an AP class that we're both in, but I don't talk to her in that class.
This whole break up happened just barely over a year ago now, and I still really want her back. I have tried going for other girls, but all I do is compare them to her and nobody is enough.
My school year ends in about 2.5 weeks and I was thinking about asking her to go get ice cream at a local place and try and make friends back with her again and see what I can do. One of her friends also told me that she heard that the girl I like would be interested in having a relationship with someone during the summer because she would be less busy with school and such.
Any advice on what I could do to try and get her back? I think there is a possibility that she may be interested in me if I play my cards right. My main idea right now is to ask her to go to ice cream and then take her for a ride on my parents boat on the lake we live on, afterwards.
(Hopefully she doesn't see this or that would be so fucking embarrassing)
Thanks, I'll take any ideas you have.

Long Story To try and give a basic summary while including details, last year in April of 2022 I went on a school trip to a European country and had a crush on a girl that was going on the trip. I talked to her a little bit in the beginning, but it was a lot of small talk stuff. Then in the last 4 days of the trip we really hit it off in a huge way. We started spending down time together at the hotel and throughout the cities we were visiting. We explored the hotels together and walked around the small towns we were staying in. It was like a dream come true, I couldn't believe she wanted to spend time with me. Then on the very last day of the trip everyone got random seat selections on the 6 hour plane ride back to the United States east coast, and I managed to get a seat right next to her! I am a big Beatles fan and we watched the movie, "Yesterday" together and then listed to some Beatles music with my Airpods and we cuddled and she put her head on my shoulder.
When we got back home she acted a little odd to me for a few days, but then we started talking to each other again, even more seriously. After about 2 weeks we hung out and she came up with the idea to go see a movie, so we did. In the movie we cuddled and ended up making out, both of our first kiss. Then we went to get ice cream after, and finally I dropped her off at one of her friends house. It was an amazing day. We continued to talk at school everyday and facetime at night until 1 day, about 2 weeks later. I called her in the afternoon on a Friday after school to ask if she wanted to do something this weekend, but she basically broke up with me on the phone. I was completely caught by surprise by this, I still have no idea why it happened. Sometimes people say they have no clue what they may have done to cause the relationship to come to an end, but I truly have absolutely no idea what happened to cause this.I haven't talked to her much since that day. Only little stuff messaging about an AP class that we're both in, but I don't talk to her in that class.
This whole break up happened just barely over a year ago now, and I still really want her back. I have tried going for other girls, but all I do is compare them to her and nobody is enough.
My school year ends in about 2.5 weeks and I was thinking about asking her to go get ice cream at a local place and try and make friends back with her again and see what I can do. One of her friends also told me that she heard that the girl I like would be interested in having a relationship with someone during the summer because she would be less busy with school and such.
Any advice on what I could do to try and get her back? I think there is a possibility that she may be interested in me if I play my cards right. My main idea right now is to ask her to go to ice cream and then take her for a ride on my parents boat on the lake we live on, afterwards.
(Hopefully she doesn't see this or that would be so fucking embarrassing)
Thanks, I'll take any ideas you have.

Long Story To try and give a basic summary while including details, last year in April of 2022 I went on a school trip to a European country and had a crush on a girl that was going on the trip. I talked to her a little bit in the beginning, but it was a lot of small talk stuff. Then in the last 4 days of the trip we really hit it off in a huge way. We started spending down time together at the hotel and throughout the cities we were visiting. We explored the hotels together and walked around the small towns we were staying in. It was like a dream come true, I couldn't believe she wanted to spend time with me. Then on the very last day of the trip everyone got random seat selections on the 6 hour plane ride back to the United States east coast, and I managed to get a seat right next to her! I am a big Beatles fan and we watched the movie, "Yesterday" together and then listed to some Beatles music with my Airpods and we cuddled and she put her head on my shoulder.
When we got back home she acted a little odd to me for a few days, but then we started talking to each other again, even more seriously. After about 2 weeks we hung out and she came up with the idea to go see a movie, so we did. In the movie we cuddled and ended up making out, both of our first kiss. Then we went to get ice cream after, and finally I dropped her off at one of her friends house. It was an amazing day. We continued to talk at school everyday and facetime at night until 1 day, about 2 weeks later. I called her in the afternoon on a Friday after school to ask if she wanted to do something this weekend, but she basically broke up with me on the phone. I was completely caught by surprise by this, I still have no idea why it happened. Sometimes people say they have no clue what they may have done to cause the relationship to come to an end, but I truly have absolutely no idea what happened to cause this.I haven't talked to her much since that day. Only little stuff messaging about an AP class that we're both in, but I don't talk to her in that class.
This whole break up happened just barely over a year ago now, and I still really want her back. I have tried going for other girls, but all I do is compare them to her and nobody is enough.
My school year ends in about 2.5 weeks and I was thinking about asking her to go get ice cream at a local place and try and make friends back with her again and see what I can do. One of her friends also told me that she heard that the girl I like would be interested in having a relationship with someone during the summer because she would be less busy with school and such.
Any advice on what I could do to try and get her back? I think there is a possibility that she may be interested in me if I play my cards right. My main idea right now is to ask her to go to ice cream and then take her for a ride on my parents boat on the lake we live on, afterwards.
(Hopefully she doesn't see this or that would be so fucking embarrassing)
Thanks, I'll take any ideas you have.

Long Story To try and give a basic summary while including details, last year in April of 2022 I went on a school trip to a European country and had a crush on a girl that was going on the trip. I talked to her a little bit in the beginning, but it was a lot of small talk stuff. Then in the last 4 days of the trip we really hit it off in a huge way. We started spending down time together at the hotel and throughout the cities we were visiting. We explored the hotels together and walked around the small towns we were staying in. It was like a dream come true, I couldn't believe she wanted to spend time with me. Then on the very last day of the trip everyone got random seat selections on the 6 hour plane ride back to the United States east coast, and I managed to get a seat right next to her! I am a big Beatles fan and we watched the movie, "Yesterday" together and then listed to some Beatles music with my Airpods and we cuddled and she put her head on my shoulder.
When we got back home she acted a little odd to me for a few days, but then we started talking to each other again, even more seriously. After about 2 weeks we hung out and she came up with the idea to go see a movie, so we did. In the movie we cuddled and ended up making out, both of our first kiss. Then we went to get ice cream after, and finally I dropped her off at one of her friends house. It was an amazing day. We continued to talk at school everyday and facetime at night until 1 day, about 2 weeks later. I called her in the afternoon on a Friday after school to ask if she wanted to do something this weekend, but she basically broke up with me on the phone. I was completely caught by surprise by this, I still have no idea why it happened. Sometimes people say they have no clue what they may have done to cause the relationship to come to an end, but I truly have absolutely no idea what happened to cause this.I haven't talked to her much since that day. Only little stuff messaging about an AP class that we're both in, but I don't talk to her in that class.
This whole break up happened just barely over a year ago now, and I still really want her back. I have tried going for other girls, but all I do is compare them to her and nobody is enough.
My school year ends in about 2.5 weeks and I was thinking about asking her to go get ice cream at a local place and try and make friends back with her again and see what I can do. One of her friends also told me that she heard that the girl I like would be interested in having a relationship with someone during the summer because she would be less busy with school and such.
Any advice on what I could do to try and get her back? I think there is a possibility that she may be interested in me if I play my cards right. My main idea right now is to ask her to go to ice cream and then take her for a ride on my parents boat on the lake we live on, afterwards.
(Hopefully she doesn't see this or that would be so fucking embarrassing)
Thanks, I'll take any ideas you have.

Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab is undoubtedly a powerhouse, if not the powerhouse of the indie perfume world. Who else (like me) came to indie perfume at least in part from the hat-tip to BPAL in the acknowledgements of Erin Morgenstern's The Night Circus? I actually still have never ordered from BPAL directly, but I have amassed a fair few samples and decants thanks to Ajevie, Arae, and swaps. And it's always fun to read through the names and notes of each new collection release!
My general thoughts about BPAL are these: they clearly know what they're doing and have an enormous library of notes for them to draw upon. Sometimes new releases feel very much like they just sort of reached into a dark cupboard and combined whatever bottles they happened to grab (particularly the Ménages à Trois), and yet sometimes the unexpected combinations are genius. (Sometimes they are very much not.) BPAL's perfumes tend to work okay for me, but they're not one of my top houses (that list is made up of Nui Cobalt, Poesie, Arcana, and NAVA), although a few BPAL scents have turned out to be holy grails for me (Drow Yoga Instructor, Mouse's Long and Sad Tale). Oddly enough, their florals often tend not to work well on my skin, which is hugely disappointing especially since I deliberately sought out a lot of their ethereal-sounding florals and then a lot of them failed for me. However, their sandalwood incense is astounding, and I love their sweet pea, plum, and pink sandalwood notes.
My preferences: I especially love snuggly scents, incense, golden amber, cardamom, black tea, beeswax, non-gourmand vanillas, and white florals (though sadly I am allergic to lilies and jasmine doesn’t usually work on me). I don't like hay, overly sweet gourmands, excessive musk, leather, dragon’s blood, patchouli, labdanum, or any really dark scents in general.
So here are 27 reviews, organized roughly by category:

Ambers

And With My Spade I Delfe My Landys [Snow-capped golden amber with snowdrop, winter gardenia, hellebore, and iris] - First off, I'm a scholar of Renaissance music, with a real fondness for medieval Books of Hours. Second, I get obsessed with snowdrops in the late winter when the cottagecore-y, hobbit-y, linen-enthusiast circles of Instagram that I haunt fill with photos of snowdrops in February. So how could I pass this one up? I get golden amber and floral as anticipated, and also (just on application, then it recedes) a very resinous, citrusy, herbal scent that I can't quite place - rosemary? Pine? Some combination of the two? It's also a bit powdery (iris has a tendency to pull powdery on me, and as a lover of powdery florals that's just fine with me). And With My Spade is so very reminiscent of those first tentative flowers pushing up through whatever snow still lays on the ground and it's absolutely bonkers wonderful for that transitional season between winter and spring, which is of course what I bought it for.
Bastet [Luxuriant amber, warm Egyptian musk, fierce saffron and soft myrrh, almond, cardamom and golden lotus] - On application, that golden amber reads as powdery honey. As it dries, a sophisticated Egyptian musk and a hint of lotus floral emerge. This perfume is not really gourmand despite the notes. I wish the incense or spices had more presence. As it is, this perfume is nice but it feels a little thin.
Cathedral [Venerable and solemn: the scent of incense smoke wafting through an ancient church. A true ecclesiastical blend of pure resins] - Ohhh, it's pretty. Golden and resinous with only the slightest hint of smokiness. These resins feel closer to tree sap than a dark or spiced incense, so while it's not like any church I've ever experienced, Cathedral is gorgeous and uplifting. I got one scant wear out of my sniffie and would definitely consider getting another sample.
Golden Priapus [A truly carnal, energetic men’s blend: vanilla and amber with juniper, rosewood and white pine] - My experience with this was so puzzling that I went to look up reviews on the BPAL forum, which only puzzled me further! On me, Golden Priapus is an extremely resinous, rosewood-y and tree sap-y golden amber not altogether dissimilar to Hexennacht Baltic Amber [Thick rivulets of golden amber, pinus succinifera, cedarwood, jammy fir absolute, oakmoss absolute, tree moss, verdant musk, cardamom, balsam, lightning-scorched ancient boughs] but with more tree resin and less verdant evergreen. "Carnal" and "energetic" it is not - so off to the forum, where I consistently saw reviews calling this "masculine" and even "a more masculine Snake Oil". I've sniffed Snake Oil (just in the vial, not on my skin) and it had a very red musk + spices vibe, and I don't really see a similarity to Golden Priapus. Nor would I call this "masculine" unless you're the sort who views resinous, sappy golden amber as a more stereotypically men's scent.
The Sun Rising [Three shades of tawny amber radiating with orange blossom, Italian yellow bergamot, saffron, and mandarin] - Golden amber and citrus, with a lot of the saffron. I tested what little was left in the free sniffie in late August, and it was absolutely perfect for the heat of late summer, though I don't think I'll bother buying more because the citrus overpowers the amber a bit (especially the prominent bergamot, not my favorite note).
My Wise Beauty [A simple scent for a quiet memory: white sandalwood and sweet amber] - Resinous golden amber and creamy sandalwood…and vanilla frosting? The "sweet" part of "sweet amber" isn't just flowery adjective but actual description. My Wise Beauty is simple and straightforward but really pretty, wrapping me in a blanket of coziness. The sugary frosting aspect will keep me from seeking out more when this little decant is exhausted, but I will happily wear what's here.

Florals

Alice [Milk and honey with rose, carnation and bergamot] - Soft florals, with the carnation a little more present than the rose. I'm always wary of milk or dairy notes, but the milk and honey here simply serve to mute the rose and carnation, both of which can go strongly green or spicy. I don't dislike this perfume, but as a person who doesn't much love these particular floral notes (I'm much more into white florals, especially tuberose and tiare), it's a little bit boring for me and I ended up destashing this one.
Juliet [Sweet pea with stargazer lily, calla lily, heliotrope, honeysuckle, white musk and a touch of fresh pear] - Disappointingly nondescript. Nonspecific white florals and a hint of pear sweetness. It's dainty and feminine but not memorable. For sweet pea, I'll get my fix with Mouse's Long and Sad Tale.
Lady Amalthea [A luminous white winter musk with lilac, wisteria, white chocolate, white mint, and tuberose] - When it first goes on, the different elements - the florals (I definitely get tuberose, and another floral that must be wisteria, which I'm unfamiliar with), the camphoric spearmint, the white chocolate, and the musk just barely brushing animalic - fight with each other, but it quickly dries down to a much more seamless whole, pretty winter florals over a comforting and Poesie-like white chocolate musky base layer.
Maiden [A gentle vision of purity, goodness and virtue: white tea, carnation and Damask Rose] - It's a lovely combination of rose and carnation, much like Alice, with a slight hint of the green stems but mostly the fragrant flowers (and without the sharp spiciness carnation can sometimes get). On application when it was extremely and uniformly floral, I thought that this perfume needed some vanilla or amber or sandalwood to give it dimension, but as it dried, the white tea emerged to do exactly that - it's not a bitter, astringent white tea, but more the feeling of steam rising from a pale tea in a china teacup. Still, I'm ambivalent at best about rose and carnation, so I destashed it.
Mouse's Long and Sad Tale [Vanilla, two ambers, sweet pea and white sandalwood] - This one is so pretty, delicately sweet and floral, and a staple of my spring perfumes! (Meanwhile, Husband says it smells like talc powder, acknowledging that I like exactly that kind of thing.) I don't get amber or sandalwood individually, but they lend the vanilla a mellowness and warmth. Several hours later, it lingers as a warm sandalwood-amber-vanilla. I love this one so much that I sought out a decant of Mouse's Long and Sad Pumpkin, which I'm saving to try this fall.
Pele [Muguet and Hawaiian white ginger enveloped by warm, damp tropical blooms] - So pretty! This is entirely a white floral perfume, tiare backed by tuberose (I think? A second white floral, definitely). If there's any ginger in there, I don't notice it. I adore tiare so I am entirely happy, though I can also acknowledge that this perfume lacks depth or complexity. I love this and other tropical white florals for summer.
Zorya Polunochnaya [Pale amber and ambergris, gossamer vanilla, moonflower, and white tobacco petals] - A crowd favorite, and I wanted to see what everyone was talking about! This has a sweet + salty, white amber + pink cotton candy effect. The slight tinge of butter and salt to this white amber (no doubt amplified by the ambergris) reminds me of the Alkemia white ambers, Luminae especially. I actually don't really get any florals from this one, which is a pity because I love the moonflower in Nui Cobalt Crown of Hekate [Moonflower and myrrh over shining white amber on a pillow of sheer vanilla] though I find the myrrh in that one quite overpowering. I had been hoping this would be a nice alternative. As Zorya P starts to dry, the tobacco starts to emerge and replaces the initial pink cotton candy effect. It's gentle as tobacco goes, but still more than I would prefer. All in all, it's been really fun to try this one since everyone's been talking about it - and it is indeed just as "gossamer" as the notes description says, though it has a really surprising longevity! But it's not ultimately going to find a place in my collection, since I have other, equally ethereal vanillas that I prefer, and I'm really not into tobacco.

Lavender

TKO [No official notes - people agree that it's lavender and marshmallow] - Yep, lavender and marshmallow. A particularly herbal, astringent lavender, which cuts beautifully through the sweet powderiness of the marshmallow. I'm also getting a sort of dusty background incense, which makes this scent remind me of Stereoplasm Lavender Scarab [Golden amber, English lavender, blackberry, incense], but with marshmallow instead of golden amber
A Place of Seeing [Pink rosebuds and lavender with amber-gilded sandalwood, vanilla bean, bergamot, and marshmallow] - It goes on with the same sleepy lavender as in TKO, made more detailed and complex with the addition of the gentle pink rose petals and the amber-sandalwood-vanilla base. It wafts around me a haze of femininity. As it dries, the marshmallow emerges too, and it becomes obvious that this is literally TKO with the addition of rose and those warm base notes. Very pretty!
The Air and the Ether [Gentle, almost imperceptible, permeating all things: pale amber vibrating with ambergris and a thread of lavender] - Lavender, one that sits midway between herbal and floral, and skin musk. It's an incredibly skin-hugging scent, but has excellent longevity.
On Wednesday, I Will Promise You a Phantom [A gust of luminous lavender, the spectral skin musk of a gently curving ghostly hand, a melodic twang of wisteria and ylang ylang, and a murmur of myrrh-touched vanilla husk] - Another "sleepy lavender" scent - I have several of these in my perfume collection and I love them all. This is a really ghostly, ethereal scent, wafting elusively around me. On Wednesday is primarily a lavender + vanilla scent, but with a bit of complexity. The lavender is the herbal sort, but it's so soft that it's not at all astringent, and the faintest hint of the other florals makes the lavender sometimes smell like the floral sort. Adding just a touch of myrrh was a really clever choice on their part - there's so little that it doesn't make it smell earthy or smoky, but it grounds it and gives it complexity and richness. It's really quite a lovely, ghostly scent.

Fruits

Drow Yoga Instructor [Wild plum, indigo lavender, and a tranquil tendril of sandalwood incense] - A dusty and purple scent with an absolutely gorgeous gentle incense note (I love sandalwood incense!) backed up by lavender flowers (sort of midway between floral and herbal), and a plum note that is intense fruity candy for about 2 seconds when applied, and then merely makes this scent truly purple. When I say "dusty", I actually mean it - after about half an hour, the sandalwood incense really does start to include an actual dust note. This is a stunning scent for yoga practice, or any day you want a gentle purple incense scent. It is the yoga perfume for me, gorgeous and meditative and containing possibly my favorite-ever incense note (sorry, NCD cathedral incense, I promise I love you too!). I don't wear this one as often as I'd like to because I also have other yoga perfumes and I like to rotate through them, but honestly this is my holy grail yoga scent. Even though it has low longevity on me; it'll last through a yoga class and then some, and that's really all I need from it. I'm seriously considering buying a full bottle, which (since I'm a person who full-sizes hardly anything) tells you something about how essential it is for my collection.
Painted Scars [Wild plum and white sandalwood with lavender bud, white musk, and blackberry wine] - I snapped up a half-ml decant of this as soon as I saw the notes, because it reminded me so much of both their Drow Yoga Instructor and also Stereoplasm Lavender Scarab [Golden amber, English lavender, blackberry, incense], both scents I really like. This is a much brighter, fruitier scent than Drow Yoga Instructor, the plum and blackberry combination going on as brash fruity candy (I don't love this stage). But it does dry down to a very calming scent, those dark fruits joined by a bit of grounding lavender and sandalwood. Unlike the two others I thought this would be similar to, Painted Scars noticeably lacks incense, but it definitely lives in their same family. I quite enjoy it (once it has dried down) but won't need to seek out more. I do wonder if layering this with Drow Yoga Instructor might improve the latter's longevity, which would be thrilling if it works.
Titania [A nocturnal bounty of fae dew-kissed petals and pale fruits: white grape, white peach, iced pear, musk rose, sweet pea, moonflower and snapdragon] - It goes on with a blast of fruits too sweet and fruit snack-like, mostly that white grape, but as it sits the florals suddenly emerge with a great whack of petals, and at this point I'm very puzzled because the particular combination of fruit and indistinct white florals reminds me a great deal of mint toothpaste. Another one that's a nice idea but doesn't really work for me on execution.

Greenery

Elf [Pale golden musk, honeycomb, amber, parma violet, hawthorne bark, aspen leaf, forest lily, life everlasting, white moss, and a hint of wild berry] - Wet on my skin, it's pine needles seen through a soft, gauzy veil - it's a strange but lovely effect, the pine needles muted by fruit and amber. Dry, the pine needles disappear entirely, and the perfume is an indistinct but really pretty mix of greenery, floral, berry-like fruit, and glowing golden amber. The overall effect is pretty muted, and by this I don't mean that it lacks throw, just that all of the elements are soft and gentle. It does feel undeniably elfin. I thought it would be a spring perfume but then never wore it the next spring, and when I tried it in early summer, it was much too tree-ish for me - but Husband loved it and happily took ownership.

Beeswax

The Lights of Men's Lives [The wax and smoke of millions upon millions of candles illuminating the walls of Death’s shadowy cave: some tall, straight, and strong, blazing with the fire of life, others dim and guttering] - I love beeswax notes and was excited to try a perfume that I'd read is the perfect epitome of a lit beeswax candle. It's a honeyed beeswax with an unmistakable candle-ness to it even though I don't smell any smoke. It's an extremely atmospheric scent and one that is very situational for me, not for daily wear. I especially love it for Good Friday.
The Little Owl [Tonka bean and vetiver with brown sandalwood, oak bark, almond, and beeswax] - Not going to lie; I was completely suckered in by the cuteness of the name and concept. This scent feels extremely Nui Cobalt-ish: woodsy but also cuddly, featuring honey + almond (like Silver Fox, Chionophilia, and so on) and also some earthier notes, and the beeswax is strong. This is absolutely going to be a fall perfume for me.

Miscellaneous

Baobhan Sith [Grapefruit, white tea, apple blossom and ginger] - I'm not really one for ginger-heavy scents, and somehow my skin always seems to amp ginger notes even if, as in this one, they're last on the list. (Isn't that always the way?) This one doesn't go on with too much ginger, but even just fifteen minutes later it becomes primarily ginger on me, backed with the astringency of acidic grapefruit citrus and white tea leaves. I really love apple blossom but I don't get much if any here; it's overwhelmed by the more assertive notes. Another half hour later, Baobhan Sith is actually nearly gone (or perhaps I just grow anosmic to it?). Meanwhile, at that stage, Husband tells me he can still smell it (so yeah, I've probably just gone anosmic), and that it reminds him of the lime oil in the furniture wax he uses - and he says he quite likes this perfume on me. Overall, it's a lovely idea, and I still think a white tea + apple blossom scent would be just fabulous but this is not it for me.
Bliss in the Pumpkin Patch [There's all manner of shenanigans in this year's pumpkin patch! Pumpkin'ized hybrids of GC BPAL scents abound! BLISS: A shot of pure, self-indulgent euphoria! A scent that is very, very wicked in its own way: the serotonin-slathered scent of pure milk chocolate.] - Oddly enough, I don't actually get milk chocolate; I get cinnamon and espresso over a creamy, foody pumpkin - all told, a bit too gourmand for me, but it was tremendous fun to try. (Less fun: the cocoa solids had separated from the oil, which also left unappealing chocolatey smears on my wrists that I later had to go wash off.)
Lust [Uncontrollable passion and insatiable sexual desire: red musk, patchouli, ylang ylang and myrrh] - This combination of red musk, patch, and myrrh smells to me a lot like dragon's blood. Husband says he likes this one but wouldn't wear it himself; meanwhile it's very very not for me and I didn't bother skin-testing it, red musk and patch being two of my death notes.
Vasilissa [Creamy skin musk and blushing pink musk with soft sandalwood, white amber, dutiful myrrh, and star jasmine] - My immediate response: "Ooh, pretty!" And even Husband graced it with a "yeah, that's nice." A dainty, feminine, slightly floral but mostly pink sandalwood scent with just enough resin and earthy myrrh underneath to ground it.
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Personally...

I absolutely positively cannot do without Drow Yoga Instructor and Mouse's Sad and Long Tale. Other BPAL favorites include A Place of Seeing and Vasilissa, and probably also The Little Owl (we'll see how much I reach for it in autumn). I'm sad that most of the floral ones I tried don't really work for me. I can also commend BPAL for their pretty and often very clever approach to gauzy, lavender-forward scents.
Thank you to everyone who sold or gifted me these samples and decants!

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I don't know where else to put this. Mental illnesses specifically ocd have destroyed my psyche and life. Pretty sure parts of my brain are damaged from the prolonged and acute anxiety 24/7 from the ocd obsessions around my identity. All I do is sleep, be on my phone for 12-14 hours a day, cope with watching Yt trash, and childhood shows, game for hours to numb the pain and do a part time driving job bc I can't function otherwise and repeat. Even this driving job, Allah knows how it takes everything in me every morning to get through the few hours of working. Trying to appear normal but burning with distress and anxiety inside just to come back home and fall flat from depression. I don't even feel like a human anymore due to the dissociation. I prayed and prayed for help when it first began, nothing happened, then prayed on and off again within these 3 years, still no help.
Haha, what sucks is I might be neurodivergent of some sort too and most likely gay so the possibility to be ever be normal is non existent. The part that pains me the most is that I have a younger brother and a mother that I was supposed to be the provider and carer for in this foreign country. Wanted to be a good role model for my brother, i didn't have a healthy male figure growing up and I know what that did to me. But I can't even function, im turning 24 next month and It terrifies me how my life has turned out. Even if I could supress all this torture, get a career and work a job to earn money, I cant, I have no skills and knowledge, im a failure. Therapy hasn't worked out, I struggle to explain myself so that's another route closed.
I fantasize about sucie so much and it makes me feel at ease, if my mom and bro could get settled somehow for life, id end it all within a week. But damn, It feels like a stab in the heart to think I cant be there to watch my brother grow up.
lm going to do self rukya and try my best to be sincere in prayers and ask for forgiveness without expecting anything in return from Allah as a last resort. But honestly I've realized many times Ive lost myself in mental issues to be normal again and will likely have no choice but to end it, I think Allah will forgive me bc he sees my situation. Its crazy bc I was a regular dude with fairly common insecurities growing up, never did I think it'd turn out like this.
Sorry for such a long post, my chest feels heavy. I guess I might as well ask, what can I do? And sorry if anything sounded cringe, English is not my language.

My fiancé and I are getting married in our home church, which was very important to us. However, the venue that we fell in love with, and honestly the closest decent venue, is an hour away. We made sure that our guest’s hotel was very close to the reception so they wouldn’t have a far drive after the night was over. However, I am still worried that everyone’s going to hate me for the hour long drive. It is unfortunate that we are loosing that hour of celebrating and I am starting to have regrets about it, but it’s too late because our wedding is next month. I just want to hear from others opinions, is it really that bad and how would you feel as a guest?

26 December, 1519
The sun was setting over the bay, as an old, retired merchant-turned-mayor sat in his manor's parlor room, watching his grandchildren play and listening to his daughters discuss how the year had treated them, and their husbands their various business ventures. Emma and Anna had both married several years ago, the former having three children to the latter's one. Anna's pregnancy had come with serious issues, though, so no one blamed her for not trying again yet.
As the old, retired mayor watched over his family, his heart grew warm, and as he looked outside at the great pine tree the city had put up for this year's Christmas festivities, he knew that he'd done well. By Riga. By the Hanse. And, most importantly to him, by his family. The same family that was now helping itself to the food Ada had spent the last hour agonizing over (she was insistent her daughters not help her; they'd come all the way out here for her after all).
Former Mayor Rupprecht Adler's time had long since come and gone for Riga, but his legacy would be remembered. Both in the city he cared so much for, and the children he'd cared so much for.
And that was more than enough for an old man like him.
R.I.P. Rupprecht Adler, September 1466 - January 1520. No moderation needed.
Edit: fixed dates

Me (21,M) and my ex girlfriend (19,F) are attempting to get back together, we started dating again about a week ago after talking for about 2 months again, things have been going really well, my birthday just passed and she spent all week with me, the only issue we’ve been running into is when I ask her about her past, now she has made it clear she doesn’t want to talk about it, but me being the man I am and loving to hurt, I ask anyways and even though she does not want to talk about it she does, (some back story) we met in high school when she was a freshman and I was a junior, we hung out the summer between her sophomore year and my senior year, we spent almost everyday together within a friend group we had, but it didn’t work out, she actually dated a guy (my arch nemesis) in a spiteful manner to get back at me for getting a blow job from one of her friends, we still liked each other though and kept in small contact whenever we could, eventually at the beginning of 2020 when Covid happened it was my senior year and school and all got cancelled, being away from everyone we reconnected and and started talking for months before starting to date in may of 2020, we dated for a little while and we had our ups and downs, she was 16 I was 18 she was still kid and I was trying to grow up, eventually near the end of February of 2021 we decided to take a week break and I decided at the end I wasn’t going to get back with her, we split off and as the memes go I was ok at first and she wasn’t, but the script quickly flipped and I found myself in a world of pain while she had taken her time and gotten over things, she informed me that she had sex with 2 of the guys I “shouldn’t be worried about” who ultimately caused our breakup in the first place, this was within the first 2 months of us breaking up, I had already had fun of my own but it wasn’t with anyone who interfered with our relationship, so this news made me very upset, we had nasty words with each other and went out separate ways, again we had light contact and saw each other a few times throughout the last 2 years occasionally hooking up but not discussing anything in our personal lives, she graduated summer 2022 and went off to college about 2 hours away, while I stayed in our home town working, about 5 months ago we really stared talking again and realized we missed each other at the end of April I went up to her college to see her and we had a great time, it’s now June 2023 and we are dating again, she has slowly revealed things she had done in our 2 years apart, and every once in a while I pry at her and get more info on all the guys she slept with and how many times and when , all this information hurts me but I can’t help myself, although it is in a way helping me get over it, but she hates it when I bring stuff up and ask her about it, but I just can’t help myself, this is causing a strain on my relationship but I don’t think I can stop asking until I’m fully over it and I tried to explain that to her, she slept with 11+ people in 2 years, I was originally her 3rd sexual partner, it bothers me and makes me feel insecure and I just don’t know how to move forward or how to get over it, sorry for the long explanation. Should I keep trying to make it work?

Hello all. First time caller, long time listener. Sorry for the poor formatting, I am on mobile.
I am seeking advise or suggestions on how to eat enough while on medication.
TL;DR: My medication is making me lose my appetite and it’s now affecting my health. What are ideas to help to eat when I don’t feel like eating?
For context, I have been taking Concerta name brand for over 20 years. I was diagnosed with ADD when I was a young child and have been taking the medication ever since. However, due to getting a new job - I had to get new health insurance. Previously, my insurance only covered name brand. Generics were considered too poor of quality for Aetna to cover.
Now, my new insurance covers only the generic and I have tried two different manufacturers version. Both are unreliable. The generics have an inconsistent extended release mechanism that you wouldn’t find with the name brand. Some days I find that I will peak around 3 hours but the next day I won’t peak until 6 or 7 hours in.
I have always struggled with my weight. I finally reached a healthy weight last year. Now, I have lost nearly 15 pounds in the last 6 or 8 weeks because I’m not able to eat as much as I used to.
Normally, I was able to comfortably eat 2-3 times a day with snacks in between and water. Now I am eating once every 24 hours, less water, ect.
I feel like if I start my mornings off right, and actually eating something when I take my medication, it’ll help reduce the lack of appetite symptoms I am feeling.
Any advise would be appreciated.